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Date:	Fri Jan 3 15:04:16 EST 1997
Name:	Kim Grable
Country:	USA
E-Mail:	kgrable@ml.com

I am a White, Jewish mother of a 6 month old beautiful baby boy. His father is black, from Barbados. We have been together for over 12 years. As a result of my having this child, some of my family has disowned me. Although this has been upsetting, I have tried to concentrate on the positive aspects of my life.

I am interested in finding others in similar situations to share suggestions and provide info on support for overcoming the stress caused by family breakups. Also, I would like to share i deas with others on preparing my child to deal with racial issues.

Im going to be frank with you... Im an antiracist skinhead living in Atlanta and I just wanted to commend you for your efforts in making this society a better place for us all...Contrary to your perceptions of me and my subculture,
we are not racists. ..The racist individuals you encounter aren't really skinheads in our opinion....Im sorry interracial couples have to put up with the crap that goes on...Hey, I date females of ALL races myself so I know what it feels like....Fortunately, my parents didn' t raise me 'stick to my own kind' snd Im proud of that...Keep up the positive work...
By the way Im black/Hispanic....

OK..WELL, AT THE MOMENT I'M IN AUSTRALIA...BUT I'M FROM PHILLY...MY E-MAIL ADRESS AT THE MOMENT HASNT BEEN ON SINCE Í LEFT TO COME HERE TO MELBOURNE BUT WHEN I'M BACK IN PHILLY AND MY SERVICE PROVIDER IS TURNED BACK ON I HOPE TO HEAR FROM A LOT OF DIFFERE NT PEOPLE...THAT'LL PROBALLY BE SOMETIME IN LATE APRIL...ANYWAY MY NAME IS MIKE, I'M 24 6'1 175 LBS HALF RUSSIAN JEW AND HALF IRISH...I CAME FROM A VERY DIVERSE ETHNIC BACKROUND AND NEVER REALLY FELT A PART OF ANY ONE CULTURE ...IN FACT I'VE NEVER REALLY MET ANY JEWISH PEOPLE OTHER THAN THE FEW ON MY MA'S SIDE WHICH I'M NOT VERY CLOSE WITH ....WHEN I GET BACK TO THE STATES I'LL BE SURE TO DROP ANOTHER LINE AND GIVE YA'LL THE LOW DOWN ON WHATS BEEN UP...BUT LIKE I SAID I REALLY LOOK FORWARD TO CONNECTING A ND RELATING TO OTHERS OF A VARIED BACKROUND SUCH AS MINE....ONE LOVE!!!!!!....MIKIE

I am writing an article for Augusta Today mag on
the pros and cons of being multiethnic. The
editor realizes this story has been done in 10
million ways, however this time she would like
the article to be mainly based on the views of
multiethnic people; views from the actual source.
If any one is interested in being interviewed for
this article, please email me by 2/10/97. As,
part of the article, I will need at least 2 clear
pictures (preferably color) of you for p ubli-
cation.

I thank all of you in advance for reading and
considering this. I look forward to hearing
from you in the near future.

Rochelle Feaster

I have been in a biracial relationship for three years now. My boyfriend is white and we have taken a lot of slack frompeople. I say if two people are lucky enough to fall in love-then let them be! Love is a rare, sweet, and beautiful thing. People rui n it with all their ralk about staying in your own race. I say just let us Be!

As a young photojournalist, I primarily take pictures of people as social commentary. I am a senior communications major at University of Maryland and have applied for a photography grant from the Alexia Foundation out of the University of Syracuse. They fund projects that promote cultural understanding and world peace. I decided to do a project about race relations, which has lead me to this web page. The large number of race-related crimes that continue to occur is evidence of the urgency for s ocial change. I may not win the generous photography grant but I intend to pursue the project anyway.
I intend to photograph men and women in interracial marriages, to symbolize a path for racial reconciliation. Throughout history, marriage h as helped in forming and maintaining peaceful alliances among different social groups. Photography has the unique ability, more than any other graphic or literary art, to present realistic information and moral concepts in an immediate and easily absorba ble form. I am in search of a wide range of people I can photograph for this project. I am interested in newlyweds, young families, multiple generations, elderly, and same-sex relationships. I take only B/W unposed pictures and I try to remain unobtrus ive as I photograph. I want to capture people in their natural state whether it be getting ready for work in the morning, sitting down for dinner, relaxing, or going to church. I will probably only use one picture per family when the project is complete . However, I take several pictures to get the perfect "one". At this point I would like to include 50 couples or families in my project. This photo documentary is very important to me and I am devoting the next several months to it.
I live in Maryl and outside of Washington, DC. I would greatly appreciate hearing from any volunteers willing to be photographed. I am willing to travel away from my area to take pictures. I believe that regional differences will make the final project more interesting . During the past few years I have begun to receive recognition for my photography, but mostly the projects I have done thus far are personal. My three main picture stories have been "Jennie at Eleven", "The Tanner-Romania Mission", and "The Seeing Eye" covering topics of adolescence, orphans, and blind people.

Sincerely,

Diana Zora Leskovac

Your site is a sight for sore eyes. It is great to finally be able to link with others like my fiance and I.

My fiance is Korean/black and I am White. We have three bi-racial children. Two boys and one girl. We are currently living in pennsylvania but have been running into too much prejudice to stay where we are. We are searching for an area where the popul ation is culturally and racially diverse yet in a rural setting. I guess we are asking for a lot, yet we haven't given up hope of finding a place where we are accepted for who we are. If anyone out there has any suggestions as to where we can relocate I am interested in hearing from you.

i am doing a research on the racial identity of children rased in interracial families (interracial couples or couples who have adopted children from another race/culture). Do you have any reliable ressources to suggest (scientific articles, books, stati stics, testimonies0? Anything would be appreciated.

I am the daughter of an African American mother and a Native American Father. My husband is Hispanic. We have 4 very beautiful children. My problem is seeing the difficulties my children are having with their identity. We live in Columbia, SC, and th ere are not many hispanic, let alone children of mixed race. We try hard to teach our children about their African-American and Hispanic cultures. I also work extremely hard to let them know that they can have a relationship with whomever they please. The only important thing to me is that the person they have a relationship loves them and treats them well.

I'm writing a book on interracial dating for the teenage audience. Actually,
Actually, it's a second printing. The book is called "Coping with
Interracial Dating." It's published by Rosen Publishing in New York.
Anyway, I'm looking to teenager s involved in interracial relationshions.
To share their stories with other teens. Also, anyone with some
advice for teens can e-mail at my address.
On the second subject, I recently gave birth to my first child - a
daughter. I am black, m y husband is Italian. She is beautiful.

Hello again,

I want to thank those of you who responded to
my email request for subjects on an article
about multiethnicity.

I am still looking for a few more subjects to
converse with, so if anyone is interested in
spea king about their experiences, I still have
room for more voices. Once my editor heard
that I posted a note online, she extended the
deadline in hopes of getting more respondants.
Her goal is to have an article that is written
exclusiv ely from the subjects' perspective.

I thank you all for your time and consideration,
and I look forward to hearing from some of you.

I am conducting the second phase of a sociological study of individuals married interracially. I collected data in 1993-94 and had over 400 participants. I am looking for individuals to complete questionnaires in this second phase of the study. If you want to participate, please send your name and address to Dr. Richard Lewis, Social/Policy Sciences Division, University of Texas at San Antonio, San Antonio, Texas 78249. Or you can e-mail the information to roundt19@stic.net. I will send the questio nnaire and instructions to you.

I was wondering which Universities offer course
work in Interracial history. I have two books
written in 1941 and 1942 by J.A. Rogers (on
Sex and Race and the history of miscegenation
in the two Americas)which have led me to an
inte rest in the subject. It is interesting to
know that many influential people in history
have an interracial backround. If anyone has
any information or web sites which are
pertinent to the topic, I would appreciate it
if you would post them at this site or email me.
Thank you.

Thank you, thank you for having this association on-line.
I am a 20 year old female, black (originally from the Caribbean), and, although I (and the rest of my family actually) knew I was interested in dating interracially, everything came to forefron t when I met my current boyfriend, who is white, of German descent. We seriously beleive we have a future together, but I have been adamant about educating ourselves on what being an inter-ethnic (even inter-religous) couple in America means. Both he and I have done research on support groups or associations and thank God I found this website yesterday.
Thank you so much for the information. I especially liked the discussion forum, because it showed me that there are a lot more white male-black fem ale relationships out there than I had originally thought.

Thank you so much.

Sincerely,

Lynn

P.S. I have to say that the Internet is a very interesting place to get to know people, regardless of race, geographical loca tion, etc. My boyfriend and I originally met on-line and fell in love; we joke that we may have never given each other a second thought if we had met "off-line" first.

Great site IIA,

If your looking for place to live were interracial relations are more accepted? Then check-out Hawaii.
And if you are looking for e-mail pals please feel free to e-me.
Mahalo, Eric

I am a 25 year old African american woman. I have typically dated Asian men, but I never gave it alot of thought until I received several rude comments from colleagues. Has anyone been in this situation? I have not been able to find anyone else who has ta lked about Black-Asian interracial dating. If anyone else is out there and can identify or at least comment feel free.

If you like to know more about us please e-mail us. Thank you for having this home page.

I would like to know someone that has a problem
being black and white cuz my friend would like to know
what color race she should hang out with,if you
have any help or info for her E-mail me! thanx bye

I like this topic very much. After 45 years and many of them spent in the confusion of what or who I am. I know now. I am a multi-racial, complex, beautiful, HUMAN BEING.

Mutliracial or Interracial in my eyes is a mixing of the best of the races, and hopefully producing a people both diverse and tolerent. Someone proud of who they are, and able to indentify with all people and cultures. Maybe then we will have a peaceful world.

If you could archive the success stories, that would be great.

Wil

I'm new here, so please bear with me if I am sounding stupid. If any of you are in a Caucasion/Mexican-American
relationship, I'd really like to know how it is working out and how you deal with things like differing family atmospheres and traditions. My boyfriend and I really love each other and want to do everything we can to make this work.

I'm a 19 year old african american who is sick and tired of people hating each other for whatever reason.
I'm very happy to see this site up and I will spread the word to keep it in exsistence.

This is a web site which is for and about gay
interracial males.

I have been trying to get my wifes visa for over a year can someone please help me?

I am a college researcher from San Jose State University - San Jose, CA - seeking interracial couples/individuals who have been in interracial relationships for exciting study. I am interested in surveying participants from all ethnic backgrounds and am s eeking both straight and gay participants.

If you have been in/are in an interracial relationship for 6 months or longer and are interested in sharing your experiences, please respond via telephone at (408) 235-0600 or via e-mail at lconverse@ho tmail.com. I welcome all questions and inquiries about my study as well.

send more info re: survey/study

I would like to commend this organization for its efforts. I am glad to see that there is a site on the internet about interracial relations. Currently at the University of Arizona, where I attend school, there is hope that a major in African American S tudies will be offered (right now there is only a minor offered) by the end of 1998 (just had to throw in a plug for the African American Studies Committee at U of A). I feel that there are not enough people who voice their opinions anout race relations in this country today, and that people are beginning to think that everything is fine and dandy as far as race realtions go. But, that is not the case, and if people keep ignoring the fact that problems do still exist in 1997, we will be going nowhere fa st! That is why I am so happy that this site and other sites regarding race relations are on the internet. Thank you for all the work you are doing to support unity and peace amongst all.

Karen York

I must say that I am glad to have found this websight. It is a place where people creating the new world can exchange ideas and unite in our belief of making the world a place free of racial prejudice.

I am presently in an interracial relationship annd I am looking to speak with others about their experiences

Greetings to all my kindred spirits. I've been surfing the net and stumbled upon this page by mere chance. I am looking for subjects for my rather ambitious project: The Global Expeience of Being Interracial.
Who am I? I am a painter/poet/photogra pher/writer/attorney who also happens to have a German mother and an African-American father. I am looking for interracial persons (having some African or African-derived heritage) to be profiled in a book I am writing about the experience of interracial people around the globe.. I am looking for adults (21+) who have found ways of harmonizing all their bloodlines, all their true and worthy selves and feel comfortable enough just to be. Artists and interracial persons from outside the U.S. are particul arly welcome. If the project interests you or someone you know, don't hesitate to contact me at barbara_greene@micusa.com or by facsimile at 1-212-462-4123. I look forward to hearing from all of you.
Barbara Greene

P.S. If you live in the N ew York City Metropolis, that is definitely a plus!

I am so glad to see this site! It is long overdue! My wife and I are an interracial couple(black/white) living in northern Virginia. We live in a community of racial tolerance and harmony. If any of you are curious about such a place, please let us kn ow, we would be happy to tell you about it.

I hope that my comments reach your site. I am relatively new at sending e-mail but I had to comment when coming accross your web page. I am doing a class project on interracial children. Your site has been very helpful in providing information. I also throughly enjoyed your success stories. I am an interracially mixed child reared in a single race family. It was definitly enjoyable reading the stories and I look forward to visiting your site again. This is something we definitly need more of.

I would like to say that I thoroughly enjoyed reading this site, and the comments that people made. I am an African-American/Native American female, and my fiance of 3 years is of Irish/German descent. We have been dating for 4 years, and surprisingly, haven't gotten as much flak as I hear a lot of people get. There have been times, but we hae endured them, as well as enduring a long-distance relationship for the past 2 1/2 years. I think that more understanding needs to be brought to the people of the world concerning what love truly is, not just a desire to be of your own race, but a desire to be with the one you love, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, the one who makes you happy. People spend more time worrying about what society will say and what society will think, and less time thinking about what is going on in their relationship, and who they love. I think that it is great that there are web sites like this one, that are supporting the efforts of those people who really do know what love is.

Whenever i see an interracial couple. I look possibly i stare at them. Why? Maybe I admire them. If someone wants to have a relationship with someone of another culture and background. If they want that reation ship to last. They will commit the XTRA time to study themselves and their partner. They will measure each other's maturity, inner strength, confidence, commitment and love.
Those who say they cannot understand racism ina ll its subtleties betray an arrogance and ignorance which inevitably brings ruin to such relationships. It's very easy to have a partner from another race. Surprisingly nomatter what our culture andupbringing the important qualities are not isolated to any single culture. I personal ly find women from cultures i have not met or understood more attractive.

The emotional upbrinigng of children is a veryy sensitive issue. If parnets can pass on their strength of character to face the race issue early and openly - the children will benifit tremendously. So many people's lives are ruined on the basis of a few words said in childhood. When your child goes to school they will immediately face an environment akin to torture.
Those who do not like mixed race couuples are racist or unhappy and inhuman, stunted by restrictions they cannot afford. The wealth of knowledge of many cultures is immense and few in a prejudiced media culture can understand this. Not only are your children more beautiful but they are smarter broader and gifted.
Last but not least. When you are married to someone from another culture especially where there is hostility and where you are the considered at lower status -your relationship cannot survive on physical and sexual attraction, it can survive o n true love.

everyone is racist it's not natural - we just all have this disease inside us. Different people take different lengths to find the cure. I am proud of those who have serriously decided to turn against the tide. When the going gets r ough you will not drown.

Just noticed your group's work. Let me congradualte you on your professional style,
good content, and desire to be a networking organization. Excellent work. If I can be of assistance, please let me know.

LOVE IS THE ANSWER, (CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG)

I AM A WELL-EDUCATED, GOOD-LOOKING, SUCESSFUL BLACK MALE WHO HAS FOUND IT EXTREMELY DIFFICULT TO ACCEPT THE TREATMENT OF INTERRACIAL COUPLES IN THE USA. IT HAS BEEN MY EXPERIENCE THAT THE "GENERAL PUBLIC" HAS GREAT DIFFICULTY ACCEPTING THE SINCERE NATURE OF SUCH LIASONS. PERHAPS MY LIBERAL VIEWS ARE NOT SHARED BY THOSE WHO CHOOSE TO BE IGNORANT, HOWEVER, I AM SURE THERE ARE THOSE OF YOU WHO MUST THINK AS I DO. MY EXPERIENCES IN INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS HAVE BEEN TRYING, AT BEST. THIS FACT WAS NOT CAU SED BY MY PARTNER, BUT MOSTLY BY THOSE WHO SURROUNDED US. I HAVE NOT BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR SEVERAL YEARS, PARTIAL BECAUSE OF MY LACK OF RESOLVE, HOWEVER I NOW KNOW THAT I MUST PUT THOSE THINGS BEHIND ME THAT I CAN NOT CONTROL. IF YOU HAVE SIMILAR C ONCERNS, PLEASE CONTACT ME AT MY WEBSITE OR WEBPAGE, HTTP:WWW.UPO.COM/STEVER.

SINCERLY STEVE

My name is Maritza.I am all of the above.I have the Spanish,Dominican on my Father's side,and the French Irish and Native American.I have always lived with my mother and her family.I ocaisionally visit my father.My whole life I have been raised as a white child.I often attended schoolos where I was the only or one of very few who were minority or multiracial.I often felt unsecure in my surroundings .When I became older I started to see the differences between me and the others more clearly.I noticed how m y dad and his family had accents,while my mother did not.I noticed that when I was younger I was darker than the other kids,and how in the summer i would become dark very quickly.I took up the spanish language,and I still make mistakes with it,which my hi spanic cousins think is hysterical.My spanish grandmother constantly criticizes my mannerisms(being outspoken,and loud).I try to know more about my culture.I want to be me ,but who am I ?I don't really know anyone like me.In school the Hispanic kids take me in,and the white kids too.i have afro american friends in the city,but i really want to have some multi racial friends,too. p lease write me!!!!!!!

I am frustrated with the lack of response I've received from organizations "claiming" to promote interracial relationhips, especially in the New York Metro area. If
there are any organizations who help bond persons interested in promoting/nurturing t his, please E-Mail me.

eric.lopez@usa.net

I'm from a small island sitting in the mid Atlantic. Due to the close proximity in which we have to co-exist with our neighbours, I've found that people of my peer group (mid 20s) have not conceeded to the pressing social issues that seem rampant in other areas. I'm not saying that they DON'T exist in fact I can state that, from first hand experience that they do. What I'm trying to say is that we refuse to let somthing so petty as ethnic background be the deciding factor on how we relate to a person or g roup of people. HUHRA IIA. I'll be glad to talk to any & all about like or unlike views.

P.S ......Is it true that as we approach the year 2000 the fastest growing ethnic group will be those termed as INTERRACIAL? GOD I HOPE SO .

I am in very difficult position where I was asked to choose between my parents and my boyfriend. I am Japanese woman who's living with Balck American man. My parents disowned me because I am with him.(My parents are in Japan and never lived in USA) Even t hough they visit me every year they cannot seems to get over the fact that he is Balck. He is a wonderful successful man who loves me very much. I don't know what more can they ask for their daughter...
Is anyone in the similar situation?

I stumbled onto this page after doing some web browsing, and I'm
quite pleased to see a site dedicated to interracial couples. I
myself am in an interracial relationship. I'm Filipino, and my
boyfriend is Irish. I've always wondered if ther e were any other
Asian/Caucasian couples who could tell me their stories and the
feedback they get from others. Please email me...even if this
dialogue doesn't describe you. :)

Emily

I am a white woman who is married to a black man. We have a two-year old son together who is the most beautiful child in the world. We are very lucky to have supportive families and friends but because we live in the South we still have to deal with a lot of ignorant people. I'm interested in hearing from parents raising biracial children in the South(or elsewhere).

Me again! Anyone out there in NC? We have a small support group for interracial couples, biracial people, and others who believe in one race, the human race. Based in the Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill area but we welcome everyone! It's for the whole family and we hope that it will get larger! E-mail me if you're interested or if anyone knows of another group in NC that we can network with. Thanks!

I am interested in joining your organization. Please send me any information on how to become a member.

Thank you!

I was wondering if anybody out there can tell me how can I change my racial status as for drivers license. I am predominately white but I also am American Indian and I don't want to deny that part of my culture.

If anybody can shed some light on this I deeply appreciate it, thanks.

I guess what being interracial right now, is my interpretation of being free. I love my family as any child would, but I can't help feeling absolutely frustrated by the way they treat me as a child and expect them to make all of my decisions, especially when it comes to dating. I'm 17 years old, and they still think that I'm going to get pregnant by some guy, or that my boyfriend is some ruthless, good-for-nothing-Latino.

Truth of the matter is that my relationship with him is a lot better th an my parent's marriage. Frankly, I think that they married because they were just used to being with each other and although that may have been the easy way out, it definitely was not a good reason to be married. My parents are more than just conservat ive when it comes to my dating- they're fanatics about it. I can understand when they want me to slow down, and see other people, but somehow, it feels absolutely right to be with Daniel. And no matter how much they try, Daniel and I will still be toget her.

I've always thought that interracial marriages were fine, because the people were happy. But my mother and father have always told me that it was wrong, because the children they have lose the culture of the parent (s). And although the co uple may suffer from other people's ignorance of love, I truly believe that they do love each other enough to suffer through that. And the children they have, such beautiful children I might add, don't lose their culture- they make their own.

I' m very happy that there is a web page like this and if you need help, please send some EM. I hope that when the next millenium comes, there will be more of an acceptance with interracial relationships.

Ziun Chiou

Happened to come accross this site today and want to say... Finally, we have somewhere to go where the entire family can relate!!! THANKYOU! We are a B/W happily married couple with three children. Nicole 13, Candice 12, and Olivia 11. We live in Phoenix Az. Marvin is retired Air Force, currently in the Mortgage Biz, and (I) Dee is also in the Mortgage Biz. We are not happy here in Phoenix and are working hard to save money to move back to the East Coast. Any comments/suggestions regaurding a more cultura lly diversified and accepting area on the East coast would be appriciated. Az. is culturally diversified, although not so accepting of B/W interracial couples/families. We married when our children were 3,4,and 5. Nicole and Olivia are Marvins from a prev ious marriage and they are B/W and Candice who is mine from a previous marriage is W. This is very confusing to other families as Candice is the middle child, and our girls are very proud to state the fact that they are sisters. We were stationed in Hawai i several years ago and are seriously contemplating moving back there as well. Our only concern is the cost of living, as we were there so long ago. Any comments regaurding this issue would also be appriciated!

The Franklins

Hi, my name is Phyllis. I am black, my husband is white. We have been married for almost 12 years. We have two children, a girl (6yrs.) and a boy (8yrs). I noticed most of the comments were from young IR couples, so I thought I'd submit this to show t hem that an IR marriage can last.

I am a black female married to a white male, professional couple, living in Austin,TX.. I have two children ages 2 and 4. Would like to hear from someone with similar background.

I am seeking legal help to address racial hate
crimes in Port Aransas, Port Lavaca, and Denton
Texas in the school districts and the Texas
Academy of Math and Science/University of
North Texas dirrected against my son and
myself. My son is a National Hispanic Scholar
and attended Duke TIP program prior to the
TAMS/UNT program.
George D. Allen, MD
no license for 15 years

I just stumbled across your site. Although I have never been in an interracial relationship, I most certainly am not opposed to one. I sincerely believe that we all are children of God. Racial hatred, stereotypes, etc. have got to cease. There are more im portant things in the world than disliking, or refusing to date or get to know another person based soley on his/her ethnicticity.

I live in Cincinnati and would love to hear from you or anyone else in the Cincinnati area. I am 35 years old, pet ite, attractive, divorced, mother of a 7 year old son. I find it difficult to find someone of my own race to have a meaningful relationship based on mutual/religious respect (I'm Catholic) due to working and raising my son as a single mom. Therefore, I wo uld not limit myself to only dating black men. I think you are doing a great service to the human race.Please keep up the good work.

Again, I would love to hear from others that are feeling the same as I do.

Hello, my name is Alice Chandler and I am a student at the UW - Madison. I am white, and have been involved in an interracial relationship with a Black man for about 1 year. His name is Obasi. He grew up in Nigeria. His mother is white and his father was a Nigerian Senator. His father died when Obasi was 8 and they moved back to Madison. We went to high school together but never spoke. Our high school was racially segregated, but not as bad as some schools. At any rate, we are going to be married on July 4th, 1998. My parents are very happy and so is his mother. My grandmother, whom I respect deeply, is terrified that we are going to have a hard time in life because of racial prejudices. We live in Madison, WI ("100 square miles surrounded by r eality") which is the most liberal city I've ever encountered. I never thought that I'd ever experience any racism. In fact, Obasi and I have made many trips to Northern Wisconsin (a very conservative place) and never noticed anything. Lately, however, I've been noticing things in our home town. In the last couple of weeks, we have walked into busy restaurants and have been seated promptly. Other tables will be seated after us, up to about 10 minutes after, but they will be waited on first. This is the same at busy counters, etc. I would not mention it, but this has happened about four times in the last two weeks, only when Obasi and I are together. I know this may seem minor compared to the horrible acts committed towards biracial couples in the past, but it has really begun to bother me. We plan to have children after we get married, and lately I've been thinking that Nigeria would be so much better for them. Of course, right now Nigeria is not stable enough politically, and not safe. But we all hope (cross fingers) that things will soon get better. Maybe the best thing would be to move there.

I am a biracial student and I am studying black-white interracial marriages for my doctoral dissertation. I'm looking for black-white couples who are willing to participate in my research by filling out anonymous questionnaires. If you'd like to help ou t, please e-mail an address where questionnaires can be mailed to:
Veola_Vazquez@bubbs.biola.edu

Also if you have any questions about the research please feel free to contact me.

Thanks.

Veola Vazquez

Great Site!

Dear collegues,
we wish to inform and share our activities with you.

Marion Kramer, public relations

How do I become a member?

I am trying to get help in changing the race classifications in Tennessee State Schools. Can any put me on the right track??

I am a biracial woman married to a white man. We are looking for a place to relocate where we could feel comfortable as an interracial couple. Could anyone provide some feedback on tolerant or even friendly cities in the USA where we could feel at home? If so, please e-mail me. Thank you all.

I've visited today your site and i found it to be very interesting. i'm presently involved with a german woman, and planning to get married next year. she's now in germany and will come back here next year.
perhaps, you know of some asian men involved with a european women. it'll be a pleasure if i'll have the chance to communicate with them.
good luck and keep up the good work.

I came across this site by pure accident, I was doing research for a paper on multicultural relationships I had for a class. I choose that topic because I, like most of you, are also involved in a serious interracial relationship. I am Irish and my fiance e is Mexican. Although my family is supportive, his is only beginning to come around after 6 years. If anyone else has a situation like this I'd love to hear from you, or if anyone just wants an e-mail pal, please write me!!

Jenny

FINALLY,FINALLY,FINALLY...there is a place to find people who are not bigots...I am a white woman(whatever that means and however far back it goes) who has not understood since I was four years old why people are so hung up on color....especially in a cou ntry where half the white people spend the whole summer trying to get brown!!! It is bizarre and crazy.

I love God...to me we are all his children, which makes all of us brothers and sisters whether we like it or not. I can
have a little pa tience with bigoted atheists, but bigots who believe in God are an unsolved mystery to me.

To the founders of this organization....MAY YOU BE FOREVER BLESSED!!

I was surfing the internet, and came across your interesting web pages...I am a 36 year old Cuban American woman married to an African American male. We have 2 beautiful little boys ages 5 and 6 who are the light of our lives. They are proud of their h eritage...their ethnicity, their languages...their backgrounds...everynight before going to sleep, I pray to the Lord up above that He help me raise these two wonderful boys to be men of dignity and honor.

It is so important for people of mixed heritage to identify with their totality...NOT just one side. For the 1st 24 years of my life I was so confused as to who I was. My mom is white and my dad is black. Even though I look more black, I felt more white a nd acted as such. Blacks ridiculed me when we lived in Long Beach, Ca. in a predominantly black neighbourhood. We then moved south to Orange County where it was predominantly white. Even though it was a little easier for me (believe it or not), I was sti ll unhappy. I could fit in only so far. Luckily, I happened across a musician named Jayson Luckett who was performing in L.A. who is black/white like myself. He sang songs that reflected the confusion, pain and pride he felt of his mixed heritage. It was listening to him that made me realize that I am MIXED, not black. I am proud to be black and white! Everyone should be proud of who they are. All cultures are beautiful!

I am so happy that there is a place for me, to find others with these interests. Being white, male with an Af.Am. woman as my greatest love it is at times trying on us. Living in the Central Ca. San Joaquin Valley, there seems to be more discouragment tha n acceptance by the gen pop.

Thanks for this hope and association of common interests among such people of high standard.

You guys are doing a great job! If we continue to come together, then noone can stop us! Check out my new website especially if you're from NC.

I would be most interested in attending a convention, seminar, meeting, social event, or lunch with any group who represents the good interests of multirracila couples or singles who desire such a forum. The selfish reason is that it seems to me the mult irracial couples are, for the most part, extreemly sophisticated, and have intelligent, gentle, but much needed goals of educating those who resist such as us.

My need is for such a meeting to be close enough to enabel attendance. My particular c hoice is central California. San Joaquin Valley, or West Central Coast,, ie Monterey Calif. (or arear)

If any are interested, or any scheduled pls. reply

Thank you so much

I RECIEVED AN E-MAIL FROM SOMEONE NAMED MADELYN.I ATTEMPTED TO REPLY BUT THE E-MAIL ADDRESS BELONGED TO SOMEONE ELSE THAT PERSON REPLIED SAYING THEY HAVE BEEN RECEIVEING THIS PERSON'S MAIL.IF YOU'RE OUT THERE I WOULD LOVE TO HERE FROM YOU AGAIN!

I would like to congradulate all of those responsibible for this web site. I have certainly enjoyed what I have seen so far. I am looking forward to seeing more of your spectacular group. I want to extend my support and gratitude for your creation of t he IIA. I am a freshman in college and I have always been facinated and supportive of interracial relationships. I have always wanted to date a person of another race because I find the unity so beautiful. Not to mention that there are a lot of sweet a nd handsome young men who are of different decents that I would love to get to know better. It just seems that they have not really taken that kind of interest. Do you all think that it could be that they are afraid of what I or others would think? I h ave chosen interracial dating/marriage as my research topic for this year in search of these answers. I certainly hope people are ready to be honest. Thanks again.

-Shar (sbattle@bigred.unl.edu)

P.S. If you have any information that you would like to share with me, please do. All assistance would be appreciated.

Hello Out There: -- Now For Something a Bit Different!!(~_^)!! == This is a "spamlet" as an Early Alert to those who have quite made up their minds about where to go &/or what to do on their NEXT Sunmmer Vacation. The Nat'l. Assn of Black & white Men Together will be holding its NEXT Confab in Ft. Lauderdale, FL - from the 21st. thru the 25th. of July {{1998}}. = For registration forms & additional materials/information on host site accommodations, one may get in touch with Glenn Bafia, Conv. '98 Chai rperson at (561) 364-8296 --or-- via Email at ==>sfbwmt@aol.com<== -OR- contact Bill Weber, Tresuer to the NABWMT Conv. '98 at: NABWMT Convention '98 - Box 212426 - Ft. Lauderdale, Fl - 33335 <> check in with the UNOFFICIAL NABWMT Website at _http: //www.slip.net/~tusker_ -- Hope to meet many NEW interracially sensitive (and other fair-minded people) while down that way Next Summer on the warm So. Atlantic/Floridian Shores. -- In Fraternatude: Jim I./MACT][SFBA "Where It All Began!"

i have read alot of your entries and found it sad that alot of your families have rejected you because you have married outside of your race. my husband and i have not ran into that problem , both families accept our love with NO problems. i have found more white families have problems with this than black.
we have a 17 month old daughter and a son on the way. my family loves her dearly. i feel for any of you who have to go through your problems without your family. it is hard enough with deali ng with strangers let alone with no family.
my husband and i get alot of stares but, we ignore them. i always think i have a pimple on my face then realize why they are staring. i forget not everyone feels the way i do.
i always remember the one thing my dad told me:
IT'S NOT THE COLOR MAN YOU BRING HOME TO DAD, IT'S THE TYPE OF MAN YOU BRING HOME TO DAD!!!
anyone ever wants to talk feel free to email me
jennifer

This is a great reference site! I had read almost all the entries. I am a white female. I have been dating a black man (Lee) for almost 7 years. We have a 1 year old daughter now. I have experienced some racial discrimination, but not as much as others. I love all human beings. And that is what we are. I think when we are asked to put our race down on paper we should all, interracial or not, make our own box, mine would read "multi-racial", because, if you take a look at your family tree I would bet, even if you are "pure" white, you are of more than 1 culture. German/Irish, that's me. I am multi-racial!!!

I would love to hear from all of you out there! Please email me!!

This is what I've been looking for.I'm ayoung black male and my girlfriend is white.Her parents think that we are just friends,butit's getting harder to hide it.Last night I was at her house and my girlfriend and her mom got in to it,and next thing I know my name and the word nigger was used in the same sentence.My girlfriend came out side and told me I had to leave.She thought that I wanted to break up with her,and I must say....that thought did cross my mind.But when I looked at her I saw why I wouldn't .I mean I really love her,but I don't know if I'll be going back over there for a good little while.I talked to my girlfriend today and she said that right after I left last night her mom said that I could stay.But she told her mom that I had already star ted running for my house,and there would be no way for her to catch up with me.I don't know what to do about my present problem.I thought her parents liked me but I guess I was wrong.If anyone can help me I would really appriate it........

I am white and have a black girlfriend. We will have been
together for 2 years on November 10,1997. I am interested
in people sharing their stories. I have thought of writing
a book on interracial couples. Email me for any reason, if
you w ant to talk or whatever. Race is only for runners.

TO ALL WHO ARE GOING THRU TIMES WITH RACIAL CONFLICTS, I COMMEND YOU FOR YOUR OPEN MINDS AND ENCOURAGE YOU TO CONTINUE OPENING THE MINDS OF OTHERS WHEN IT COMES TO THIS SITUATION. I AM BLACK AMERICAN GOING THRU THE SAME THING WITH MY GIRLFRIEND'S PARENTS. BUT IN MY CASE, THE PARENTS DON'T EVEN KNOW I EXIST. MY GIRLFRIEND(WHO IS FROM JAPAN) IS SO AFRAID OF LOSING HER PARENTS BECAUSE THEY DISAPPROVE OF HER DATING OUTSIDE OF HER RACE. THIS IS REALLY DESTROYING HER LIFE.(HER FUTURE). IF YOU LET YOU PARENTS O R ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER ATTEMPT TO COME BETWEEN THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE, THEN YOU WILL ALWAYS BE LONELY, UNHAPPY, FEEL WORTHLESS AND IT COULD GO ON AND ON AND ON. MY ADVISE WOULD BE TO LISTEN TO YOUR HEARTS BECAUSE YOUR HEART WILL TELL YOU IF THIS IS TH E RIGHT THING TO DO.

SINCERELY,
LAWRENCE C. JONES III

I'm looking for videos dealing with interracial
issues. I recently purchased a video entitled
"Are You Black White or What?" through
Interrace magazine. It's an absolutely
wonderful documentary. If any readers know of
others, I would appreciate hearing about them.

I am a high school student. I am writing an extensive research paper addressing the question: "Is Transracial Adoption Fair to the Child?" I have already obtained many positive responses to this question, but I also need to present the negative side of the issue to make my paper more well-rounded. If anyone could help me in this regard, please e-mail me at kazukoma@aol.com. I am also welcome to any other positive comments as well.
Michelle

Hi, Iam found this site very helpful. Iam Spanish 25 years old and my boyfriend is African; I had hard time to introduce him to my family because in my city is rare to see a black person. Iam so afraid thinking on my kids facing difficulties of any kind. I would like to hear from people who already has
African-Spanish children or experience similar difficulties, or read information that would help me. I think it would be very stupid to leave the person who really care on me just because others do not like his color, but Iam afraid to have an unhappy marriage.

I am a 20 year old white woman engaged to a 20 year old black man. I have enjoyed reading these postings very much, and after reading them I consider Corey and myself to be very lucky people. We have not experienced any problems in the past year and a h alf that we have been together. The worst that ever happened was when someone looked at us funny as we walked into a store together. And we just laughed it off. When I read the stories of other interracial couples it makes me very sad, but at the same time it almost seems like these stories are made up (and I know that they aren't) because it has never happened to us. I guess we have just been lucky thus far.

Corey and I live in Tampa, Florida, just moved here together from Michigan, and are looking for some interracial couples to hang out with. I think it would do both of us a lot of good. Please contact us if you live in the Tampa Bay area.

Also, I am interested in finding out if there are any events in this area for interracial families, couples, etc. Please e-mail me with these.

I have stumbled across your page by accident and have added to my "favourites".

I am elated to see that there are so many people who date each other, regardless of race, (and to see so much courage amongst you all because, belive you me, it is ha rd in England too).

I would be grateful if someone would Email me personally with their experiences.

Many thanks.

I am doing a research project on the treatment of interracial couples as consumers. If you have any stories or comments please email me at the above address by Oct. 25, 1997. Thank you!

I am a black woman in the south, Altanta, GA to be more specific. I have for a long time been interested in dating outside of my race. I personally think that is the biggest way to get the message across to everyone that people are people no matter what their color.

Hi everyone, My full name is Peter Franz Erich Schweikert Jr., which is about the most aryan name one can possibly posses. I derive a great amount of humor from the fact I look more "Hawaian" ( that's everyone's first guess in the lets name pete's race g ame) than german. My father was born in Heidelburg germany and my mother in a small village in southern china near Canton. Furthermore, I'm married to a African woman from Sierra Leone. When (if; my wife doesn't seem to enthused about pregnancy) we ha ve kids I'm debating naming my first born son Peter Franz Erich Schweikert III. Enough of my lighthearted ramblings.

In all seriousness, I believe that engaging in any type of interacial relationship be it friendship, dating or marriage is one of the most difficult endevours that two people can undertake together. The fact that our society posseses so much intolerance and even hatred pains me greatly. The intimate blending of different cultures, through interacial relationships can in the end lead to an amelioration of these prejudices. However, there are so many forces working to rend asunder the beauty inherent in multicultual relationships. I just wanted to tell everyone that I am proud of what all of you are trying to do for I know firs t hand the difficulties involved. Moreover, in the end these realtionships can only lead to a better tommorow. Good Luck!!!!

I read many entries but don't have time to go through them all, sorry. I was in Thailand for 8 months teaching English and fell in love with the women I was assisting. I would like to have her visit my country and my mother before we get married. The problem is she is poor and I'm not exactly rich so our government wont give her a visa to come and visit or a student visa to come and study.
If you have any ideas of how I can bring her over please E-mail me.
I'm white by the way so it seem s from your writings that we are going to have a tough time as well as our children. Your scaring me. STOP IT!

I read many entries but don't have time to go through them all, sorry. I was in Thailand for 8 months teaching English and fell in love with the women I was assisting. I would like to have her visit my country and my mother before we get married. The problem is she is poor and I'm not exactly rich so our government wont give her a visa to come and visit or a student visa to come and study.
If you have any ideas of how I can bring her over please E-mail me.
I'm white by the way so it seem s from your writings that we are going to have a tough time as well as our children. Your scaring me. STOP IT! Also I would like to add that I first saw a black and white couple together when I was in third grade. I was confused for a long time and than came to the conclusion that it was ok. You are changing the thoughts of children just by walking down the street together.

WOULD LIKE TO BECOME A MEMBER. I HAVE NO COMPUTER AT HOME SO I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF YOU STILL CATER TO PEOPLE VIA HOME ADDRESSES. MINE IS 501 S. JEFFERSON ST., ARLINGTON, VA 22204

I love your web site! I hope all Americans get to learn that interracial relationships and children are a part of American life as same race relationships and children.

I am a 26 year old female caucasian dating an african-american male. I've been dating him for 2 years, and still have not told my family, scared of them making me choose.... I love this man with all my heart, but I am also very close to my family. I'm rea lly needing some advice on what I should do?????? Please e-mail me...
THANKS :-)

To The Editor:

Although I think your goals to be both admirable and worthy of attention, I find the title of your association less than appropriate.

To be blunt, race is a myth. There is less than a one percent coding difference in the t hree billion base pairs that make up the human genome (sequence of genetic information). And of this one percent, probably less than one percent goes into making up the genetic variation that varying cultures insist on commenting upon (e.g. facial charact eristics, skin colour, etc.). In essence, what this data means is that the differences between any groups of peoples -- between any two people -- is so minor as to be insignificant (sp?).

Yet, having said this, I should say that the social constr ucts that we have damned ourselves to are not immediately tractable to scientific analysis. Indeed: I have yet to hear of a comprehensible comment on such constructs; and I begin to wonder if we should ever find a way to dismantle the edifice built only o n the evidence of the senses.

I initially hesitated to make this comment for fear of misinterpretation. However, I thought the merits of the argument outweighed the risks. I urge you to reconsider the title of your web-page in light of the commen ts I have just made -- comments that may be varied by the scientific literature available to most people in their local/ university libraries.

Sincerely Yours,

John Davin Kim

Family Diversity Projects created and distributes the beautiful photo-text exhibit, OF MANY COLORS: Portraits of Multiracial Families to colleges, schools, libraries, churches, and other community sites around the nation. Now this exhibit is being publis hed in book form with the same title. It will be featured in USA Weekend on Nov l4-16, the weekend magazine insert that goes into 40 million homes around the country. Please visit our website at http://www.javanet.com/~famphoto/famdiv.html to get more in formation on how to bring the exhibit to your community or to order the book directly. You can also order it from your bookstore or at Amazon.com online.
Best wishes, Peggy Gillespie, Family Diversity Projects

please send me info. on the association.

Keep up the great work! I believe that a person's character and inner beauty makes she or he who they
are, NOT the color of their skin.

About relationships ... I had been dating a lovely
black woman for approximately six months prior to her
moving to the West Coast. I was appalled by the
attitude of total strangers whenever we entered a room,
held hands in public, etc. This is 1997, and the
so-called "barriers" must come down! Irregardless of
what people thought , it was a beautiful time and am
glad that I was, and remain, "color blind".

P.S. I am looking for organizations such as yours in
the New York/New Jersey/Connecticut area. Any
ideas out there?

The personal experiences in my life are sort of different from the traditional interracial couples of today. I am a child of what use to be considered a interracial marriage by my grandmother. My dad is a sicilian-Italian (dark skin/hair) and my mom is english (blond hair). My grandmother went by the strict Italian views and basically treated my whole family like garbage b/c she wanted my dad to marry an Italian woman. My parents are not racist...but hypocrites.....they will allow me to marry any man of any race except a black man. I have dated several black men in my life, without telling my parents....Has anyone else had this problem?

This is my first time surfing the net and I came to the site purely by accident. I am an Afican American female married to Caucasian male. It is so nice to read about other IR coupled. If anyone in cyberspace knows about IR couple support organizations in the Central/Northern Indiana region or if you would just like to discuss experiences (especially other black females married to men of other races, please E-mail me at the given address! Thankx!

I am conducting doctoral research on attitudes of people towards intermarriage and transracial adoption. I'm looking for research on characteristics of people who choose to intermarry. For example,
are they more optimistic about race relations in t he future? Less separatist in their beliefs? More unconventional in their approach to life in general? If you know of any authors who have conducted
research on this topic, I would appreciate your E-mailing me with this information. Thanks! (E-mai l address above).

I'M A 44 YEAR OLD BLACK AMERICAN MALE WHO WOULD LOVE TO KNOW MORE ABOUT OTHER BLACK AMERICAN MALES AND THEIR RESISTANCE IN FINDING JAPANESE AND JAPANESE-AMERICAN FEMALES FOR RELATIONSHIPS. THERE IS SOMTHING ABOUT THE JAPANESE CULTURAL I JUST LOVE. WE'RE A LL HUMANS AND WE'RE ALLOWED TO PICK AND CHOOSE BUT I FIND THE STEREOTYPICAL MORES ABOUT BLACKS ARE VERY DISHEARTING. PLEASE WRITE, I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR YOUR COMMENTS.

I'm a black 16yrs old and I have been dating
a white boy who is the world to me.
It is very hard for me because my mother
hates white people, what should I do?

I'm a reporter for KABC-TV News in Los Angeles, California. I'm trying to find interracial couples to interview for a report that will air in February. I'm specifically hoping to move beyond the black-white paradigm, and broaden the story to include asia ns, hispanics, and others. If you're in the Los Angeles area and are interested, call me at (310)557-3304. I'm new to the internet. I hope I did this right.
marc brown
marcabrown@abc.com

I'm a reporter at KABC-TV in Los Angeles. I'm looking for biracial couples and multiracial individuals who are willing to tell their stories and opinions on the air. I'm new to the internet, and not very good at this stuff. So rather than e-mailing me, please call me at (310)557-3304. I'm especially interested in hearing from Hispanics, Asian-Americans, Native Americans and others who fall outside of the "black-white" paradigm.

I would just like to say that I am proud of what you guys are doing. I am in an interracial relationship myself and my parents are in complete understanding. I need your help because I am a senior in high school and I need some information from you for my research project. Please E-mail me and send me any information that you have. My E-mail address is DGreen5447@aol.com. Any info that you have on laws and rulings, or statistics of success rates or anything else, is appreciated. Thank you for your t ime and I hope to hear from you very shortly.

Sincerely,
Deidre Green

I stumbled upon this website a few weeks ago and was truly delighted. It's a pleasure to see people from all over the world and from all cultures conversing about unity.
I'm a journalism student at NYU writing a story about interracial relationships o n the internet, and am looking for mixed couples to inteview briefly about their experiences, particularly if your parents don't approve of the union. Please let me know if you'd be interested (names will be changed if necessary).
Thank you to anyone who responds to this. Believe me, I know what you're going through: I too am in an interracial relationship, and am lucky enough to have parents who might as well be in the Ku Klux Klan for all their racist views. Thanks again.
Thea habjanic
tmh20 1@is6l.nyu.edu

In short, I am bi-racial (26 year old male) (black and white biologically) adopted by bi-racial adoptive parents (black and cape verdean).

America has a huge social problem! Any intelligent being can say America is a mix of separate Americas eac h with their view of "America". This nation was founded on the "principle" that citizens and immigrants would learn from each other willingly. That we would each add a new view and communicate important issues intelligently reinventing America.

(1). Perspective - the state of ones' ideas.

Foremost, we need to communicate with one another. We have grown self-centered, material and those are important factors for social deterioration. Humans don't communicate, we dictate. Humans some times think they know what is "best" for someone, we rarely reason with pure hearts and minds.

Second, my solution is voluntary social responsibility on a local level. Racial exposure (learning a foreign language, learning another culture) is im perative for the long term vitality (global commerce, world environment, the human species) of America and cause more prosperity than unprosperity. The social spectrum starting positive will remain positive and only lead to a positive outcome. Community by community we can heal Americas open wounds and ignite a new social movement. It starts with our children and ends with our elders who (shamefully) suffer in this country.

Third, we need to set a vision and act on that vision through public s chool systems, within the community, involving, challenging and communicating perspectives. The only way is if every American shares her/his perspec-tive in a public forum. Fundamental human principles are the same (life, liberty, pursuit of happiness) but somehow within the mix, we deliberately divide. Humans must build from those principles and expose the beauty of our individual culture.

(2). Exposure - presentation to view, in an open and public manner.

Fourth, the only governmen t regulations needed are integrity, high performance measures, respect for our institution and the assurance of a level playing field for every school in America. Guaranteed equal education is the only key for a civilized America, an America that loves u nconditionally , an America that respects and the only America based on hope.

In my conclusion, I hope I have spread some unconditional love and instilled in you my vision of America. Never give up the struggle!

- - Best wishes!

I would like to have comments on any problems people have encountered. This would really help my research I am doing.

I would like to have comments on any problems people have encountered. This would really help my research I am doing.

Hi there. I've been reading over the comments and I'm touched... Especially by the younger kids dealing with this interracial thing. Kids are always the bravest.
I'm interracial- my mother's English/Scottish and my father's Ethiopian. But for some st range reason I look somewhat Asian. People think I'm black, asian, italian, spanish, hawaian. native, middle-eastern: how is that possible? I have no idea. Ask God.. Anyway, I wanted to say two things: it's important for interracial people to come togethe r (because usually we seem to make a point of avoiding each other... or atleast that's been my experience). This interracial development is historical... it's evolution. It's time to build some foundations for the next generations. I mean racism is a path etic joke... on all of us, white,black, asian or mixed. As a new culture a new race we have to avoid self-pity and doubt. Gather strength from each other. Who else can deal with racial differences better than interracial people. There is a purpose to this union of differences and we're each learning this every day. In short we have to envivision human destiny and move toward it, build a new world culture. I'm going to have a web site up and running soon so I'll be preaching from there. See you then...

Hi, I am an 18 years old, and would just like to share some
of my thoughts. I lived half my life in Israel (my homecounty) and half my life here in the USA. I have been in one serious relationship (interratcial of course) with a cute french-vietname se girl. We recently broke up, for various reasons. Now I find myself very attracted to biracial people (perticularly White/Asian) But can't seem to find any new intresting people around here my age. (I live in Sunny Southern California) I think interr acial children are among the most bueatiful out there, so keep having them :) Thanks for listening to my thoughts, any comments?

Hi, I am an 18 years old, and would just like to share some
of my thoughts. I lived half my life in Israel (my homecounty) and half my life here in the USA. I have been in one serious relationship (interratcial of course) with a cute french-vietname se girl. We recently broke up, for various reasons. Now I find myself very attracted to biracial people (perticularly White/Asian) But can't seem to find any new intresting people around here my age. (I live in Sunny Southern California) I think interr acial children are among the most bueatiful out there, so keep having them :) Thanks for listening to my thoughts, any comments?

I just want everyone who is comtemplating an interracial relationship to remember that it is not what we look like on the outside, but who we are on the inside. I not only see beauty in interracial relationship, but also when I see people of different r aces become friends.

I believe in interracial dating and practice it myself. I have noticed a couple of things that seem odd. They are:

1. There seems to be a LARGE imbalance in Black female/White male relationships versus Black male/White female, with the latter be ing in the EXTREME to the former.
Why is this?

2. I have many black male friends, and they think it is perfectly fine for them to date females other races, particularly white females. They expect others to be tolerant. YET, when they see a n ice-looking black female with a white guy, they are the 1ST to freakout and be the biggest hypocrites I have ever seen. Why is this?

We will never have racial harmony until EVERYONE gets over their racisim - and yes, I mean minorities too (denial is the true indication of that there is a problem). If you engage in racism, you cannot complain about others. Lets just REALLY all get along, rather than keep pretending.

I believe in interracial dating and practice it myself. I have noticed a couple of things that seem odd. They are:

1. There seems to be a LARGE imbalance in Black female/White male relationships versus Black male/White female, with the latter be ing in the EXTREME to the former.
Why is this?

2. I have many black male friends, and they think it is perfectly fine for them to date females other races, particularly white females. They expect others to be tolerant. YET, when they see a n ice-looking black female with a white guy, they are the 1ST to freakout and be the biggest hypocrites I have ever seen. Why is this?

We will never have racial harmony until EVERYONE gets over their racisim - and yes, I mean minorities too (denial is the true indication of that there is a problem). If you engage in racism, you cannot complain about others. Lets just REALLY all get along, rather than keep pretending.

I am a 28 year old white woman. I have a 5 year old son whos' father is African American. We have had our share of problems with racism and although we are not together any more we both strive to teach our son that skin color is not an issue. A child in his daycare once said to me, "You are not Al's (my son) mom cause your are white and he is black. After explaining to him that his dad is black I commented that Al was "special" because he got to be two colors instead of one. The child went running t o his mom and crying said "Al gets to be two colors why can't I?" I feel like I have had a direct hand in bridging the gap in two races. I have read comments posted here looking for pictures and asking for input to certain questions regarding interracia l dating and child rearing. If anyone is interrested I would be willing to answer any questions that anyone may have.

I have a question for everyone else though.....I would like to find pictures depicting interracial children. Every other rac e seems to have pictures but not children that come from a mixed racial background. If anyone knows of any place where they can be found PLEASE E-mail me.

And just a note to teens that are considering dating persons of another race. Remember wh o YOU are. I have seen too many white women who, after they start dating black men, they start acting differently. BE YOURSELF and others will and should respect you for it.
May God bless you and keep you safe !!!

Monica

I am a 28 year old white woman. I have a 5 year old son whos' father is African American. We have had our share of problems with racism and although we are not together any more we both strive to teach our son that skin color is not an issue. A child in his daycare once said to me, "You are not Al's (my son) mom cause your are white and he is black. After explaining to him that his dad is black I commented that Al was "special" because he got to be two colors instead of one. The child went running t o his mom and crying said "Al gets to be two colors why can't I?" I feel like I have had a direct hand in bridging the gap in two races. I have read comments posted here looking for pictures and asking for input to certain questions regarding interracia l dating and child rearing. If anyone is interrested I would be willing to answer any questions that anyone may have.

I have a question for everyone else though.....I would like to find pictures depicting interracial children. Every other rac e seems to have pictures but not children that come from a mixed racial background. If anyone knows of any place where they can be found PLEASE E-mail me.

And just a note to teens that are considering dating persons of another race. Remember wh o YOU are. I have seen too many white women who, after they start dating black men, they start acting differently. BE YOURSELF and others will and should respect you for it.
May God bless you and keep you safe !!!

Monica

I am a 28 year old white woman. I have a 5 year old son whos' father is African American. We have had our share of problems with racism and although we are not together any more we both strive to teach our son that skin color is not an issue. A child in his daycare once said to me, "You are not Al's (my son) mom cause your are white and he is black. After explaining to him that his dad is black I commented that Al was "special" because he got to be two colors instead of one. The child went running t o his mom and crying said "Al gets to be two colors why can't I?" I feel like I have had a direct hand in bridging the gap in two races. I have read comments posted here looking for pictures and asking for input to certain questions regarding interracia l dating and child rearing. If anyone is interrested I would be willing to answer any questions that anyone may have.

I have a question for everyone else though.....I would like to find pictures depicting interracial children. Every other rac e seems to have pictures but not children that come from a mixed racial background. If anyone knows of any place where they can be found PLEASE E-mail me.

And just a note to teens that are considering dating persons of another race. Remember wh o YOU are. I have seen too many white women who, after they start dating black men, they start acting differently. BE YOURSELF and others will and should respect you for it.
May God bless you and keep you safe !!!

Monica

I am a 28 year old white woman. I have a 5 year old son whos' father is African American. We have had our share of problems with racism and although we are not together any more we both strive to teach our son that skin color is not an issue. A child in his daycare once said to me, "You are not Al's (my son) mom cause your are white and he is black. After explaining to him that his dad is black I commented that Al was "special" because he got to be two colors instead of one. The child went running t o his mom and crying said "Al gets to be two colors why can't I?" I feel like I have had a direct hand in bridging the gap in two races. I have read comments posted here looking for pictures and asking for input to certain questions regarding interracia l dating and child rearing. If anyone is interrested I would be willing to answer any questions that anyone may have.

I have a question for everyone else though.....I would like to find pictures depicting interracial children. Every other rac e seems to have pictures but not children that come from a mixed racial background. If anyone knows of any place where they can be found PLEASE E-mail me.

And just a note to teens that are considering dating persons of another race. Remember wh o YOU are. I have seen too many white women who, after they start dating black men, they start acting differently. BE YOURSELF and others will and should respect you for it.
May God bless you and keep you safe !!!

Monica

I am a 28 year old white woman. I have a 5 year old son whos' father is African American. We have had our share of problems with racism and although we are not together any more we both strive to teach our son that skin color is not an issue. A child in his daycare once said to me, "You are not Al's (my son) mom cause your are white and he is black. After explaining to him that his dad is black I commented that Al was "special" because he got to be two colors instead of one. The child went running t o his mom and crying said "Al gets to be two colors why can't I?" I feel like I have had a direct hand in bridging the gap in two races. I have read comments posted here looking for pictures and asking for input to certain questions regarding interracia l dating and child rearing. If anyone is interrested I would be willing to answer any questions that anyone may have.

I have a question for everyone else though.....I would like to find pictures depicting interracial children. Every other rac e seems to have pictures but not children that come from a mixed racial background. If anyone knows of any place where they can be found PLEASE E-mail me.

And just a note to teens that are considering dating persons of another race. Remember wh o YOU are. I have seen too many white women who, after they start dating black men, they start acting differently. BE YOURSELF and others will and should respect you for it.
May God bless you and keep you safe !!!

Monica

I am a 28 year old white woman. I have a 5 year old son whos' father is African American. We have had our share of problems with racism and although we are not together any more we both strive to teach our son that skin color is not an issue. A child in his daycare once said to me, "You are not Al's (my son) mom cause your are white and he is black. After explaining to him that his dad is black I commented that Al was "special" because he got to be two colors instead of one. The child went running t o his mom and crying said "Al gets to be two colors why can't I?" I feel like I have had a direct hand in bridging the gap in two races. I have read comments posted here looking for pictures and asking for input to certain questions regarding interracia l dating and child rearing. If anyone is interrested I would be willing to answer any questions that anyone may have.

I have a question for everyone else though.....I would like to find pictures depicting interracial children. Every other rac e seems to have pictures but not children that come from a mixed racial background. If anyone knows of any place where they can be found PLEASE E-mail me.

And just a note to teens that are considering dating persons of another race. Remember wh o YOU are. I have seen too many white women who, after they start dating black men, they start acting differently. BE YOURSELF and others will and should respect you for it.
May God bless you and keep you safe !!!

Monica

I find it very disappointing moving to a state is much more diverse than Maine and is not accepting by both Blacks and Whites. I worked with couple black men. During a conversation in the hall way in my workplace (a respectible fortune 500 company), One o n the male remarked, when I asked about a good neighborhood to buy a house, " You will not be accepted in my neighbor which is predominately black neither in a white area". I have been here only eight months. I have a very excellent managerial position in my company. Any one out there who live in this area? My wife and I would like to meet other bi-racial couple.

Just wanted to express how much I have enjoyed this site and it's too bad we don't have more of these on the Internet. Right now, I am involved in an interethnic (hate the term interracial--makes me feel like I'm dating another species!!!!) relationship w ith a Swedish/Finnish (or white) guy and we are deeply in love. Just want to wish couples everywhere good luck because relationships are hard enough and I'm just happy to be in one where my ethnicity does not get in the way of our love for each other. His parents like me and my parents like him. I just find it hard now to go back to the US where people can be so judging. Ironic, isn't it? Sweden is a lot more "whiter" than the US could ever be and they are more accepting of interethnic couples here than t he US could ever be.

I'm a 15 year old interracial female. Yeah, I was one of those cute little biracial babies you've probably seen somewhere. My parents never thought it was important for me to examine my racial identity, I never went to therapy, or was faced with a box of skin-tone crayons and asked to draw myself. My mother is from the Caribbean and my father is German, they are both successful professionals. I do not have a single black friend, although I do not pick my friends based on the color of their skin. I don't know if it's the big brown eyes, or the coffee w/cream skin that gives me away, but I am often recognized as being interracial. Most of the time it is non-white people that notice this. Many of these people, especially African-Americans approach me wit h hostility. Whereas white people tend to approach me with curiosity or ignorance (I thought people there didn't wear bras, a friend said once about the island where my mother grew up), blacks always try to create distance between themselves and myself. Little stuff, like when the cross-cultural alliance (made up of mostly black students [there are only about 10 at my school]) invited students they deemed to be "of color" to read biographies for Black History Month, and I was not invited, occur frequentl y. I guess I've doomed myself to being surrounded by people who pull on my curls and are jealous of my "year round tan".
If anyone with young mixed race children reads this I'd like them remember not to push their children to understand every aspect of the many cultures they come from. Whether it be exploring ships used to transport slaves or cooking crepes don’t push them to embrace it all at once. What I’ve found most important was knowing that my parents loved me for who I was and growing up 'nor mal' without noticing the other people staring. When I was old enough to see how people at hotels winked at my dad when we went together as if I was some prostitute he was taking up to his room, it was the self-confidence I had gained from home that help ed me stay calm. There have come times in my life where understanding the German voting system or the kinds of canoes the Caribs used was useful, but when I was learning it just seemed like a hassle.
I had a religion teacher who tried to tell me onc e that interracial people were the smartest people on earth because they had the widest gene pool, and in the next breath he said mixed babies are cute and all, but that they were hyperactive and problematic and should not be brought into this world becau se there is too much hostility. Even if my friends aren't diverse, and I fantasize about having straight hair and blue eyes, I live my life to disprove the latter part of his statement.

Thank you for a wonderful page. I am 20, caucasian, female, and involved in a relationship with a great Indian guy whose parents don't know about our relationship and likely would not approve. Would love to hear from other in similar situations.

I am a 21 year old female who is married to a 29 year old white male. I love Ryan deeply and believe it or not we live Tennessee and don't really experience any raccial discrimination. We have a new baby now and people around don't seem to pay much at tention to us at all. I think that is wonderful and all but we are thinking of moving away from here some day. I wonder how other couples are being treated ever where else. Please e-mail me. I want to talk to other interracial couples so that we'll atl east have an idea of what to expect if we ever do move.
Don't give up, God is with us!!
ryannina@ecsis.net

Reading the comments from people in interracial relationships and the problems they still face in society leads me to conclude that being in a interracial relationship today (especially between black and white) is like being gay in the 1960's. Today, a re lationship between two men or two women is being more readily accepted by society(refer to "Ellen" on ABC TV) than the relationships between a black and a white person. Ironic, isn't it?

Hello World Friends! This has been an uplifting find on the Internet! So much loving support and encouraging letters from kindred spirits. I noticed that under "songs" there are only three titles about racial harmony. Since music is so important as fo od for the soul, can we add to this list? Raising children in a multi-racial family, I've found how valuable music can be to inspire and sustain--especially young hearts!

I'd like to add to the list: DC Talk "Colored People" and Traci Chapman "New Beginning".

Anymore great songs about the Oneness of Humanity?

Mare Said

Hello! I'm giving a power point presentation to my class at WWU on racial issues and the Internet. DOes anyone believe that the WWW is helping different races communicate? Or is the WWW simply an aid to a WORld Masquerade BAll? Please, I would love your c omments. Thank You, Brandi