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This site is very interesting. I wish there was a local Phhiladelphia area chapter. Being a "mixed" race person in America has been a journey, for the past 32 years of my life. I have often been angry at my parents, because of the the "never quite fitting in" which I have experienced most of my life. When, at age 29, I enrolled at a large, urban university, I finally felt a sense of belonging. Then, at a predominately white graduate school, that old, cold, familiar feeling of being "other" prevailed once again. I currently work in among latinos, where, to my suprise, I feel right at home. So, to all of you, above, who have ever felt "strange", well, you're not alone. Don't be afraid to explore different cultures, until you find your niche.

Im 15 and involved with a black guy *im white* and weve been together 2 1/2 mths. but im wantin to bring him forward to mah mom she knows bout him and said she hates it but theres nothin she can do to stop it but my dad would kill me...we get along great and noone has ever treated me more better i absouletly need ya help folks how would u deal? i have aol instant messeger my sn is apriljeste

hey, my name is Laura. I am 15 years old. My biracial boyfriend Ron and I have been together for about 2 1/2 months now. We started out as best friends. He was good friends with a couple of my past boyfriends and we had spent a lot of time together. He use to come to my house and we went to some parties and ball games together. My parents were completely fine with us being friends, but when things between us started to heat up my parents freaked out. We had just started talking but from our first kiss I knew that we had something. It wasn't the sophmore crush of the week, this was serious. They found a note I had written him nothing bad was in it but it talked about our feelings for one another. Then after I thought things couldn't get worse they find a dirty note from him which was written as a joke, but they ofcourse didnt think it was too funny. Ron is 17 and he is the star varsity basketball player everyone at school loves him and since i am a basketball cheerleader everyone thinks we are such a cute couple. But ever since those incidents I have had to keep our relationship a secret from my parents which is hard because i live in a small town. I have told them that now we are just friends and they believe me but we still fight a lot because I am very open with my feelings about interracial relationships. I told them that when i look at someone i dont see skin color, I see a person and I judge people by who they are on the inside. Thats what is suppose to matter anyway. Ron treats me great and I know in my heart after only being with him for a little over 21/2 months that i love him with all my heart. I love my parents also but their narrow mindedness about interracial relationships makes my temper flare. It is hard for me to tolerate ignorance. I am still leaving them in the dark about our relationship and will continue to do so until i feel comfortable with what i think their reaction will be. My opinion is Skin color is an illusion. God created everyone equal. If I love Ron and he is who makes me happy, then I think that they should be happy for me. They think it is wrong and God doesnt like the mixing of races. I think they are mislead in that belief. So just do what you feel in your heart is right. Thats what I did and I am happier than I have ever been. If you wanna talk more or just want to ask a question email me back.
Good luck and God bless,

I am a fourth year University Student working on a screenplay for one of my Film courses on an interracial couple (specifically African American and Caucasian) during 1939-1940, North America. The story revolves around the importance of equality and the difficulties this couple encounter just to keep their relationship. I don�t doubt that there haven�t been interracial couples in the past, in fact, I know that there have; however in my research I haven�t been able to find any relevant material/information on interracial couples during the 1930s and or 1940s. It�s strange, with something so common today as interracial relationships; it�s almost as though it never happened in the past. There have been books written about even the most trival things, yet there is a huge gap in our history that hasn�t touched interracial couples in the past. Maybe society is not ready to deal with the truth, or more importantly, with all the emotional baggage that is attached to this topic. If any one has any information in regards to texts, or web-sites that touch on, or deal with interracial couples, (specifically African American and Caucasian) during 1930-1940 North America, it would be greatly appreciated if you could contact me as soon as possible (preferably within the next week, before my proposal has to be submitted). Thanks.

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I am engaged to a beautiful 30 year old East Indian woman. We live in Louisville, KY, and most of the people that we've come in contact with have been very accepting of our relationship. She has had numerous arguments with her father over her dating a Black man, and had to tolerate the brunt of the racism toward us, that has come from him. I have met her mother, and while she has not completely accepted the fact that we are going to be together, she has been more supporting of my fiencee's decision than most in her family. Her brother is very supportive of us, and I think that a lot of the negativity has to do with clinging to outdated racist views. Thank you for this forum!

OK! Here goes! I'm only 15 years old but I have met a really great guy, but he's black. He treats me better than any guy I have ever met before and we both agree that we want to be with eachother. So whats the problem? My parents. They say that they won't allow it, and that we can only be friends. I dont want to date behind their back because I would feel too guilty, but I want them to understand. They say that their beliefs are that you should stick to your own race. I say my beliefs are different because race shouldn't matter. If he treats me great, then I should be with him. My parents say they dont care what my beliefs are because as long as I live under their house, I have to abide by their rules, even though those rules make me unhappy! They said they are willing to meet him but no matter what we can only be friends. It makes it harder because I see him all the time and the truth, we are going out. But I cant hide it anymore but I'm scared to tell my parents because I know they wont let it go on anymore. What should i do?????? - confused

I really enjoyed reading the emails in the comment section of this site. After reading them, one realizes how far we in the US have come in regards to interracial relationships. Yet at the same time, we as a society have much further to go. If any single/divorced females of color would like to dicuss this or any other topic by email please contact me at wysiwyg4@37.com

I am in a interracial relationship.I've dated spanish before but this is my first white woman. I care and love her deeply, but we have some serious clashes as far as our differences. I am very analytical and identify racism as soon as it rears it's ugly head. She thinks that I am paranoid. She does not know the trial and tribulations of what black men go through day in and day out. She believe that the world is full of bright vivarant colors. That maybe her world, but it is not mines. The stares I don't care about nor do I care who don't like the fact that I am with a white woman. My happiness is what's important to me. The only thing i have a problem with is some of the differences that we encounter among each other. How do you get over that hump and keep the relationship intact. Over all, she makes me happy.

I am in a interracial relationship.I've dated spanish before but this is my first white woman. I care and love her deeply, but we have some serious clashes as far as our differences. I am very analytical and identify racism as soon as it rears it's ugly head. She thinks that I am paranoid. She does not know the trial and tribulations of what black men go through day in and day out. She believe that the world is full of bright vivarant colors. That maybe her world, but it is not mines. The stares I don't care about nor do I care who don't like the fact that I am with a white woman. My happiness is what's important to me. The only thing i have a problem with is some of the differences that we encounter among each other. How do you get over that hump and keep the relationship intact. Over all, she makes me happy.

I am in a interracial relationship.I've dated spanish before but this is my first white woman. I care and love her deeply, but we have some serious clashes as far as our differences. I am very analytical and identify racism as soon as it rears it's ugly head. She thinks that I am paranoid. She does not know the trial and tribulations of what black men go through day in and day out. She believe that the world is full of bright vivarant colors. That maybe her world, but it is not mines. The stares I don't care about nor do I care who don't like the fact that I am with a white woman. My happiness is what's important to me. The only thing i have a problem with is some of the differences that we encounter among each other. How do you get over that hump and keep the relationship intact. Over all, she makes me happy. I feel whole with her. She makes me want to be a better person. She is sweet and kind and thoughtful. And there is nor real threat to our relationship. But there are times where we bump heads on certain issues. Like young ladies having children without being married. You see I have two beautful daughters that are the light of my life and I am not nor have ever been married. even though my former relationship was 9 yrs long. Things like that, she will judge some people not knowing what their lives were like or what brought them to that conclusion. But, on the flipmode of that she gives so much of her self to others. It can be at times very confusing. But, unconditional love is her greatest asset. She really is my soulmate.

Hey everybody. I found this page out of curiousity tonight trying to find people who were similar to me. I'm a teenager, in high school just ending a relationship with a black male. I'm a white female, and I found our relationship to be difficult and so uncomfortable at times. As much as I tried to ignore the opinions of my friends and family, it is sometimes hard for me to not take to heart what other people think about me and the choices that I make in my life. My relationship with him was one that my friends nor family approved of. My parents did not know, but at times I would randomly ask them what they thought of it and ask for their insights just to understand what kind of a situation I would be in with them. I told my sister about him, and she told me that she didn't think it was right. And I know I had strong feelings for him, but at the time when my sister told me her feelings, I have to say that I somewhat almost changed my own feelings for a split second. Luckily, I came back to reality and realized that it was my life and it was not wrong for me to feel the way I did. I noticed my friendships to be somewhat strange after I started dating this guy. I've just come to terms with my relationship with him. And the reason for our ending our relationship was not based on any racial issues, but on things that every couple struggles with. You know what I mean. But I just felt questionable about my feelings tongiht, and I wanted to know that I was not alone which I found this site to comfort me about. My hope was to find others similar to me, and thats what I found from this site. May others find this note as encouragment and comfort to them if they are in a position such as this. I wish you all the best with your relationships. I hope that you all will remember to always follow your hearts, and not so much the insights of the outside world. May your god bless you with a wonderful friendship, relationship, and life with these people that you love.

Sincerely,
Laurie :)

i am a student in louisiana and i am writing a term paper about interracial relationships. i am looking for feedback from people who are in interracial relaitonships. i am writing this paper b/c where i live we were pretty much taught that it is wrong to date outside of your race. personally i don't think it is so i decided to write a paper on it. i would appreciate your feedback on this issue. thank you
andrea

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I am an African american male with an Asian wife. I am seeking other such couples to converse with. If you are on eone please e-mail me at D1A2L3D4@aol.com I'd really like to hear from you. since we hear little about this kind of couples. Anyway I have 6 friends of the same make up would you like to join. hope to hear from someone and African american females with Asian male mates are welcomed too!
Donald

Hi, I am a white woman....married to a black man. I enjoyed reading everyones comments, I think this is a great site. Heres a brief story of my life. My whole life i dated mostly white men and a couple of black men.I knew dating black men would be a problem for my family ...especially my father. Well when i told him it was,But i really was very stern i told my father you eithr except our relationship your you lose me as your daughter...He dealt with it...but he didnt seem too thrilled..that is until he got to know my husband...I think people are deffinitely affraid of what they dont know. But the day my father really changed his views is when my daughter was born..he took one look at her and he was in love...now he calls to find out when were coming over!!! So everyone struggling with insecurities in your relationships...please dont let narrow minded people ....or what people think about you matter to you! Or you could lose something great!!

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It's very nice reading eveyone's comment. I too am involved in a loving interracial relationship. I would not trade it for nothing.I only hope that people will learn to appreciate diversity, instead of running away from it. Big thumbs up for all that is listening to their heart.

I just got married to a wonderful japanese woman and am proud to spend every minute of my hispanic life with her.
I just want to say, that beauty can be seen only in the eye
of the beholder and race never matters it's just the way life should be lived.

I am a white 20 year old female, who has had the time of her life and more with a Puerto Rican male for six months now. We really have much more in common than I have ever had with any of previous (white) companions. I've always been supportive of interracial relationships, and I half expected to participate in one. I'm so glad I have...I'm learning so much about the Hispanic culture that I otherwise would not have been able to. I just wanted to say that I think organizations like this go a long way towards breaking down old prejudices and should continue their fantastic work. Thank you for giving all of us an outlet.

Hello. Reading all these comments has made made me remember back when i was 16, when i first got involved with my "black" boyfriend. (I am white). Everyone said it was a faze or whatever but now 4 yrs later we are still together. We have a beautiful 17 month old daughter together. Yeah of course people had problems with it at first..like my father but once he got to know him everything changed. My father is my biggest support now and other than us i dont think anyone loves my daughter more. Prejudice is just something people will have go through but i say hold on. Its so hard to find love that when you do dont let it go. You can live your life by what other people think, you have to make you happy before anyone else. Life is only so long why waste it wondering how others feel. And i want to tell you these last 4 yrs have been the best yrs of my life and i hope i can have 40 more if the Lord is willing. This relationship with this "black man" that no one beleived in has gave me the most precious thing i could ever ask for....a wonderful child. Hes the best father. I couldnt ask for anything better in life. So to everyone you cant love a color only a person. The beautiful color of LOVE is the only one that should count.
I would love to here from others in similiar situations...E-mail me!!!

I am studying interracial relationships and need information on how different races go through courtship. I would appreciate any information that anyone can come up with or if you happen to know first hand yourself. This is a great site and enjoyed reading all the comments.

I live in Hawai'i and have been married to a man of another race for a decade. It is so common to be interracially married in Hawai'i that it is completely unremarkable. I should interject that race and ethnicity are not the same thing; In Hawai'i, if you happened to be half Japanese and half Filipino, you would be considered mixed, or hapa, as we say here, whereas, on the mainland, you might be considered simply Asian. We take an unnatural interest in ethnic background here in Hawai'i. But certainly not to to exclude anyone. It is a topic one might broach while standing in the grocery line, i.e. "Oh your little boy looks so much like mine did when he was a baby. Is he half Japanese?" Nobody would dream of taking offense. It's as neutral as saying, "Nice day, isn't it."
Stereotypes are part of the cultural landscape of Hawai'i, but we seem to have evolved away from racism. I am very sure that this is the result of generations of intermarraige. We laugh and even gripe about sterotypes, but are connected to so many ethnic cultures, we understand that the sterotypes are broad brushes that could never be used to paint an individual. Animosity toward a particular race is almost unknown (and almost certainly imported). If you hear someone make a derogatory remark about a certain race, it might be followed up by "..that's true about most of them -except my brother in law, of course..." We are not colour blind here, we're just living the life of a rainbow, colours side by side, blending into a continuous spectrum.

I am currently researching the misrepresentation ofinterracial relationships as portrayed by the television media for a paper. More recent data would be nice from some trustworthy source on the web! And who's better to do this than your group/organization who aims to "To become internationally recognized as the primary source for information on interracial issuesand "To
establish and MAINTAIN the world's first interracial database for statistical and research purposes."Stay on top of this..more and more of us individuals born into interracial families need to see this! I'm willing to help in any way I can..I am still in College but this is a great cause and boy oh boy do I have encredible pride for who I am!! I'd loove to help make others who are mixed racially to understand and feel as comfortable with themselves as possible..Sincerely yours..Best Wishes on the web site!

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I am a 16 year old white female who is in a relationship with a african american male. This is a wonderful site. I didn't realize there were so many interracial couples out there! I live in Tx/La currently and have a hard time from older people about my dating a black guy. My family dispises it, but I love this guy very much. All i hear is how black guys don't treat their women right, the kids will have a hard time, and society doesn't accept it. I believe as long as you love someone enough you can make it through anything. I know an extreme number of people who date interracially and don't have many problems. I would like to correspond with all races and ages who will offer support, which is what i really need right now. Peace-out for now and email me soon. ~Falon-Whitney~

I am a 16 year old white female who is in a relationship with a african american male. This is a wonderful site. I didn't realize there were so many interracial couples out there! I live in Tx/La currently and have a hard time from older people about my dating a black guy. My family dispises it, but I love this guy very much. All i hear is how black guys don't treat their women right, the kids will have a hard time, and society doesn't accept it. I believe as long as you love someone enough you can make it through anything. I know an extreme number of people who date interracially and don't have many problems. I would like to correspond with all races and ages who will offer suport, which is what i really need right now. Peace-out for now and email me soon. ~Falon-Whitney~

iam a 20 year maexican american girl .I am daitng a 22 indian guy who was born in bombay He and his family moved her to houston when he was a little boy , So he is americanized .His family think that he is to young to be in a realtionship and that it is not right to be with some one who is not Indian. At this point in the realtinship i am a secrect. His family found out about when we were two month together. They think that we are broken up now. We are very happy , he treats me like a princess and i love him him with all of my heart, he feel that same way. I dont think that race do prevent to people who love eachother be a part.Other people who see us together support us but it is family and otheR Indian couples who dont. I hope hat who ever reads this will help them to stand together as a couple and work thing out . I know that Hevenly Father has a plan for all of us. I feel that is two people love each other and are willing to stick out through thick and thin and with hard trials that will come to face them in the long run then all thing will fall in to place . Good luck everyone out there

To all that read this posting: I am so proud of you! This world even though this is year 2001, you still get those "Closed Minded" people. If you're in a Interracial relatioship, please ask yourself the question: "Can I deal with the stares?" My answer to you is YES you can. I had my share of my own Black race turning their nose up to me because of my choice in relationships. I'll simply tell them when they make a Stupid Comment like: "You Sold Out" Ii'll tell them, " I do not represent the black race, neither do you! and, the best part is, You don't have to live with me either." Because other's choose to live a life in the dark has no effect on you. We need to embrace each other because there are over 1 million and, counting of Interracial couples and family. My boyfriend and I are happy and, we love each other. I'm proud to be an Open Minded, Leader not follower, a black female who fallen in love with a White/Hungarian man. His mother is white and, spent 3 weeks with us and, her "First" grand daughter I love her and, she love us. What makes me proud of her is the fact that she's 65 years old and, white. At that age, I was expecting problems Phyllis is a true leader. If you get stares and snares from White's, Black's and, other Races. Know that whatever "Rock" they climbed out of, they will go back and, your life will still go on.

My name is Rhonda Roorda. I am a thirty one year old African American who was adopted into a white family at the age of 2. Recently I co-authored a book with noted scholar Rita J. Simon at American University on the journeys of 24 transracial adoptees who grew up throughout the U.S. The book is called "In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories" (Columbia University Press, 2000. It is A MUST READ for anyone who deals with race issues and is searching for reconciliation. You can get this book through barnes and noble.com and also amazon.com. Also it can be ordered through a local bookstrore.

I look forward to interacting with those readers who are interested in this subject!!!!!!

Thank you for creating such a great avenue to network.


Rhonda

A great new introduction site for individuals who believe in dating without boundaries.

Hi, I am marrying a white man and I am a black woman. I just want to say that I also get looks from black woman when we are out together. He seems oblivious to it but I can feel the hairs on my neck and see the facial expressions. We both feel in love and have many things in common. Color was never an issue with us. He is the first white man I ever dated and I am the first black woman he ever dated. Our wedding is only 3 weeks away and I wonder what life will be like in middle class America for us.

I love the site and I will recommend it to others. Great job.

Hello,

I am a freelance writer with Fifty-Plus, a magazine published by the Canadian Association of Retired Persons. A few weeks ago, I was assigned to write an article with the working title of "Rainbow Families." In a nutshell, I'm trying to find and interview several Canadians, 50 or older, who are living in a inter-racial or inter-faith family. I'd like to find out how their family came about, the particular challenges and joys they've experienced, and their advice for other people who may be in a similar situation. It will be a happy, "good news" sort of story (and heaven knows, after the dreadful events of last week, we could all use a lot of good news).

I thought some people reading this Web site might be interested in being interviewed for this piece, and also that you might know other people who might like to participate. The telephone interviews would probably take between 45 minutes and an hour each, and I would like to do them sometime before September 21.

If you would be interested in being interviewed, or can think of others who might be, please e-mail me at your earliest convenience. On my Web site, below, you can see links to some of my articles and so get a sense of the type of stories I write. I've written for a number of Canadian publications besides Fifty-Plus, including Canadian Living, The Globe and Mail and The Ottawa Citizen.

Thanks in advance for any help you can provide.

Sincerely,

Laura Byrne Paquet
Freelance journalist
Ottawa, Ontario
E-mail: laura@cornerstoneword.com
www.LauraByrnePaquet.com/freelance

I am writing for some advice. I am a 32yo white female. I am divorced with two boys. I have a professional career, and I own my own house. I, by no means, am "well off", but I get by.

I vacationed in June with my extended family in Jamaica. During this visit, the houseman at the villa we stayed in frequently went out with us in the evenings. He made it very clear to my sister, that he thought I was very special.
We talked a lot after that, and became very close. He's a very caring and honest person. We vowed to keep in touch after I left, and have at least twice a week by phone.

My family LOVED him when we were in Jamaica, and even said how they thought he was a really nice person. However, when they caught wind that I was keeping in touch with him, they were not too pleased. Suddenly, I was interested in a "black man", and "how could you do this to your sons?" All the negativity came pouring out of them. I was so disappointed. You see, I NEVER saw him as a "black man", the entire time we were together. Even now, he's just a wonderful man! My parents suddenly became enraged that I would even consider bringing a "black man" to my town!

Anyway, I have continued to be in touch with him, and have a trip planned to go back to Jamaica to see him in November. We have both decided that we will talk then, and consider our future.
My problem is with my children. Should I give up what I really feel could be the most honest relationship ever for me, because I don't want to "disgrace" my children? My mother has already gone as far as to tell me a am a terrible mother for doing anything with this man. She said I'm not thinking about my children. I love my children, and I am an excellent mother. I have a 15 and 5 yo. The 15 yo knows that I keep in touch with my boyfriend. He says he doesn't have a problem with it. I just don't know how to handle all this. I don't want my children to think that we should only date people of the "same" race. I don't believe that. It was NEVER a black/white thing with us. We were just two people who genuinely care about each other, and want to be together.

I am not concerned with what my parents think, they have already shown their true colors. I am concerned with my children, how can I handle explaining to them that this situation is OK, when most others that they interact with will make them feel otherwise? I'm not ready to throw in the towel with this relationship--heck, I wouldn't even consider it!!

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks in advance!

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I am beginning an interracial/biracial group for parents and children. I am unaware of a group of this nature in any of the Australian states. Could someone give me some ideas and basis for the birth of this group? I am directing the group mainly towards the black and white unity. What I want mostly to focus on is children mixing together socially so they interact with their darker side. Where I live it's a rarity to see many darker people in everyday living. Any suggestions on activities or topics, social events for my group?

Hi everyone, I'm 15 and I live in Australia. There are many ethnic groups in Australia. My closest friends are polish, australian, lebanese, chinese just to name a few. Although there are a wide variety of ethnic groups sadly there are very few africans. I would love to be able to become friends with some african americans, so if any one wants to talk email me at poyson_candy@hotmail.com
Thank you

Hi, everyone. I'm an MA student in the Social Sciences (originally from California) at the University of Amsterdam. At the moment, I am planning my thesis project which is a Comparative Gender Study of Biracial/Mixed Multiracial Americans of "Black" and "White" ancestry. The project will explore how people formulate their ethnic/ racial identifications, and how they determine whether or not they will be black-identified. I am looking for biracial people living in California, between the ages of 20-30, with one 'black' and one 'white' parent, who is willing to donate a bit of time with me for an in-depth interview. I will be in California beginning december 19th. If you, or someone you know is the slightest bit interested, feel free to email me (shelel@hotmail.com) and I can provide you with further details of the project. Thanks!

We open recently a site that aims at to defend the racial miscegenation as the most efficient form to fight racism. It�s no not necessary great effort to promote miscegenation in Brazil � it�s occurs spontaneously by all its history. Unhappily appeared in Brazil movements that wants valorize black people devaluating the miscegenation. There are racists in Brazil, but there aren�t racists organizations as like KKK or nazi party; the racists in Brazil don�t say: �I don�t like blacks, or mulattoes�. There is a shame about it.
In Brazil racism he is superficial, of appearance: the Brazilian racists are not so demanding - it is enough to seem white to be white. Interracial relationships are routine and a marriage of a black person with a white, or Indian, will be in the maximum seen as �funny� or �curious�. Pel� is a good example: he only has married white women � what the people find normal. The soccer player Ronaldinho, a mulatto, is seen as a white.But the idea of the � Brazilian racial democracy � has been denied for some.
This everything motivated the creation of the site Fus�o Racial. Then, we pass to search links and other materials for the site and I was happy in finding this. I wait to collaborate with it and I will start for listing it in ours links. If my ability in the English language was beyond the capacity understanding texts like your site, I would translate it into the Portuguese, but I believe that the gentlemen desire a translator better qualified.
Yours truly,
Jerson Cesar Le�o Alves

I want to encourage each of you in interracial relationships. I am a black female who finds beauty in all cultures and shades, but has a preference for white and asian males. First of all, remember that God made us MAN and WOMAN. The media has downplayed this, but geneticists and biologists have confirmed that there is no such thing as race. What happens is that some genetic codes are turned on and off. They geneticists specifically stated that all humans are 99.9% similiar. I am not making this up. What happens is as within our own individual families. Maybe one family member is tall, one is short, one has round eyes, one almond shaped eyes, one full lips, etc.

I also want you all to be aware of something as you date interracially: your attitudes. Be honest with yourselves, because if you have wrong attitudes towards a certain group, it can really affect your dealings with them, as well as what you teach your children about them. For instance, it would not be constructive for me to bad mouth black men, just because I've had bad experiences with them, just as it is unhealthy for black men, who date interracially to bad mouth black women. Yes, I'm sure we all get flack from those of our culture of the opposite sex for dating interracially. Or maybe we didn't get the attention we desired from someone in our culture. Unfulfilled expectations can lead to resentment, bitterness, and eventually wrong actions towards a certain group. At the end of the day you have to look at and deal with yourself. So some black woman, black man, white woman, white man, hispanic, or asial person has issues with you dating outside of your race. That's THEIR problem. God gave them a life to live, as He gave you one also. But, acceptance of your desire to date interracially is not a green light to step all over and bash those of another race.

It's disturbing to me for a black man to tell a white woman that black women are b#$#$. Just as it is disturbing for a black woman to tell a white man that black men don't know how to treat a woman or that they are lazy. Those are VERY harmful steretoypes that can cripple constructive relationships between women of various cultures, as well as between men of various cultures.

Please keep yourself emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy, because it WILL affect your relationship with your partner. Don't let those who oppose interracial relationships win by letting their ignorance take root in your mind, heart, and life.
Christine

Your site is wonderful! Thank you for promoting racial harmony and understanding. As the mother of three biracial children and the only white member of a large African family, I am excited to see a website that supports interracial and intercultural relationships.

Because we had to endure intense pressure in order to get married, my husband and I wrote a book called "Love in Black and White" to inspire and support other interracial couples. Perhaps your readers would be interested in reading selections of it that are posted on our website. They can go to www.mathabane.com/love-dust.htm to read the dust jacket. The preface and first chapter can be found there as well.

Sincerely,

Gail Mathabane
Portland, OR

Hi:

I have begun a ministry for interracial couples. The information below is an overview of our worldwide ministry.
Please take a minute and read the information and let me know your thoughts. If you would like further information about our ministry, support network, or conferences, please let us know. I would like information on how we can help support your association to help spread the great message of interracial blessings. Thank you and may God Bless you.

Sincerely,


Tony Richards
Founder

Biblical Imperative: Galatians 1:12
Goals of Interracial Ministries:
#1 To establish a strong identity with churches, universities, and select
communities, that are sensitive to the spiritual and practical needs of interracial couples.

#2 To provide web-based access and information to interracial and non-
interracial couples to educate and enhance the understanding of interracial issues.

#3 To create cell groups throughout the world to provide (1)
support/fellowship opportunities; (2) share an identity with other interracial couples; (3) serve as a web-based information exchange; (4) teach and understand how today�s issues faced by interracial couples can be interrupted through scripture; (5) to form local chapters for interracial couples.

#4 To provide conferences for interracial couples that will inform, educate,
and inspire so that the relationship remains strong and healthy.

#5 To publish a subscription based interracial magazine that is either web-
based or distributed by standard mail.
Interracial Ministries
P.O. Box 133
Monaca, PA 15061
(724) 417- 0581
Email: interracialministries@yahoo.com


INTERRACIAL MINISTRIES�
Are you or do you know someone in an interracial relationship?
Looking for support and fellowship?
Seeking to strengthen your interracial relationship through the Word of God?

Interracial Ministries is a non-denominational ministry that is dedicated to helping support, inform, educate, and strengthen the individual, couple, and community about interracial relationships.

We are a community-based ministry seeking to network with couples, by discussing relevant issues, in a practical way, through the bible. We seek to help you to strengthen your individual relationship through:

Shared Experiences by talking and working through situations
Discussing Issues that we face and by understanding where and how we �fit� into the community
Blending Ideas through support group interaction
Weekly Bible Study to help strengthen your daily walk
Weekly Praise and Worship Service

For more information about Interracial Ministries, write or call us at:
P.O. Box 133
Monaca, PA 15061
(724) 417 - 0581
Email: interracialministries@yahoo.com

�Because God�s Kingdom is a Blending of All Cultures�


Coming in 2002 - Interracial Ministries Web-site

well i am african i was born in angola ,west of africa we speak portuguese down there and i am involved in a interracial relationship for more than 9 months.i love my boyfriend very much ,and he loves me too he does everything for me, but my problem is that my friends and my family dont agree with ours relationship ,because they say that i am selling myself to the white world and that my boyfriens will always feel superior than me cause he is white.we are thinking to get married and raise a family but there is so many people against us that i dont even know , and i also hate when people stare at us, any of you guys please give your opinion and help me out here.thanx

This is an awesome sight, and I too am in a Interracial relationship. My boyfriend is African American. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Being in college, I have learned so many things that I never knew before when I was living in my hometown. I realize now that people are now more acceptful. I am thankful for you all putting comments on this site. It made me feel alot better. Thankyou, Steph

Loved the site.

I am writing a film based upon my dating experiences as an interracial woman. If anyone can recommend films after 1980 based on this same subject matter would you please contact me (I've already seen Zebrahead, Black & White, Jungle Fever, Save the Last Dance and One False Move).

Hello, I was in an interracial relationship for almost 3 year. My family didn't like it at first but my mom's side of the family said it was mylife. My dad made me move out. I still visit him but it's not the same. The guy I was with we still talk and we are going to be together we were just having a rough time. I think everyone should be openminded and date out of there race....

Hi everybody
I am a single white mother of a biracial child. His father is African American and Cherokee Indian. He is not a part of my three-year-old son's life by his choice. I would like advice on what I should teach my son about being biracial: should I tell him that he should consider himself black because that is how the world will see him, or should I tell him that he should think of himself as biracial- honoring his white side too? I know he will one day make a decision about what race he considers himself, but I believe I can influence his decision. I would like advice from anyone who has advice on what I could tell my beautiful son. Please feel free to contact me at www.tctothetop@aol.com.

I have read many of the comments posted and find them very interesting. I seem to be in many of these peoples shoes. I am 18 years old involved in a biracial relationship. I've been in this relationship for 2 yrs. now and my parents are still against the fact of me dating out of my race. No matter what they say my boy friend seems to be the perfect match and I'm not looking at his race, but instead at his personality and life attitudes. He is the best guy out there, well at lest for me and I truely love him. I don't have time to look at race when the perfect guy is standing before offering everything a guy of my race woundn't offer. I always say, why settle for second best when you can have the best. Thats how I see my boy friend to the best so why should I allow race to interfer with my life when it shoudn't be a factor.

Well, this site is a nice surprize. I am involved for about 5 years in a wonderfull relationshp with an african (from Congo - Brazzaville) and since this january, he left Romania for Paris, where I will join him during this summer. Although we speak on the phone and we chat on the net, my mission here and his there is really hard. I have to prepare my departure in a way that would not let my parents know why I am leaving. My father is a despot which doesn't even know about this relationship. He only knew about me beeing friends with the christian african community and that was 4-5 years ago, and he called them 'nigers' (the equivalent in romanian resembles the term 'crows') and he told me that his daughter would not be submitted to the public gossip and judgement by frequenting these kind of people. My relationship with my parents begun to fade despite the fact that they truely believe they love me. I didn't have the courage to confront them with my choice because my father could have done my boyfriend a lot of harm (he is a police officer and he knows people). My heart is broken for 5 years, because I know that Christian is the perfect man for me and I deeply love him, and I also know that my parents should have been proud of me for beeing with him. I love my parents too, I am an only child and I've always tried to be a good daughter. Time has come to proove my abbility to make a choice, the first great choice of my life, and to confront them with a vision of my future. This is my mission now. But first, I have to be prepared for my journey, since my father could try to prevent me from leaving under the circumstances. It's still a tricky situation... I pray I'll have the strengh to never look back at those who did not accept me for who I was.
My boyfriend is struggling to get a long term visa, so that he could start to work, and so, to call me and live together, at last. His family though has easily accepted me, after Chris told them everything we went through these 5 years. We both got sick, me with diabetes and him with TBC, we are better now, but the fact that we were not accepted by my family has really consumed us. More than that, our best years (from 21 to 26 for me and from 23 to 28 for him) passed without having a single holliday, we stayed only in the city, fearfull of the consequences... The story is very complicated, maybe one day, I will submit it on the "success stories", if it's ending will be a happy one.
The point of this long comment is that I will never regret a single moment of my life with my true love and no one should sacrifice the best part of their existence, even when the odds are totally against them. There is always a solution, even if it comes not soon enough. Good luck to all the people who have found love, no matter where.

I'm a 17 year old white male and my girlfriend for 6 months is black. She is the best thing that ever happened to me and she makes me very happy. Other people tell me that we will never be happy together because we are so different. My parents cursed and beat me when they found out. Now they don't know that I still see her every chance I get and that I talk to her everyday. I love her. I really do. Her mom is cool with the whole fact that we're together and her two brothers are OK with it. Her dad doesn't have any idea. He knows that I call but he doesn't know that I'm white. I'll be 18 in September so then everybody will know because I'll be moving out of my house on my own. It's gonna be hard and it's gonna hurt but I love her and she loves me and we're going to be together. So write me to tell or ask anything.Thanks

Okay...this may be especially unique...but I'm desperate to find some answers/support. I am seriously involved with a (mostly) white man whose child is a beautiful mixture of his "white" father, and his (insert popular reference to mom's having considerably less pinkish melanin than I do-term here...)mother. I am caught in a nasty assumption I fear, on behalf of the mother. Despite myself having a multi-ethnic child myself - (Hispanic/white), I get treated worse than any previous black ex-girlfiends of my white boyfriend...(and I suspect that this is not only due to the seriousness of our union, but because I am stand to supposedly 'whitewash' her child). The craziest part of this, is that I grew up in a predominantly black and hispanic community where I was so often the "lone whitey"...and chastized for the same. In fact, I can say that where I am pink and can identify the need to foster an education-rich, loving atmosphere for my boyfriends multi-ethnic child, that the child's mother stands as an obstruction to progress with Hollywood-type "ghetto" tactics that attack me and my best efforts. Is there anyone out there who can relate? Is there a forum for catagorically white girls who are trying to avoid the hideous victimization that accompanies being the first "white devil" following a relationship with a woman of (whatever other) ethnicity or race? Should I just document my own personal headaches and write the first book about it, or can anyone offer any suggestions? PS---For record...I am college educated, don't talk like I'm trying to emulate any other groups, and yes, I apply both lotion and grease to mine and my boyfriends poly-ethnic brood, as well as to my own dry skinned, wirey haired self. I also slather myself with the same grease to tan with at the pool...c'mon...if you are in my boat...write the email provided...Thanks!

JFKDL;AFJDL;AAFDA

I really enjoy this website!I think it's great that so many people want to bring awareness to these issues.I'm so proud!

Hello,
I am a highschool student interested in making cultural awareness a more important issue in my community. Next year I am hoping to start a club devoted to cultural unity, and am looking for an association that could help me do this. Does the International Interracial Association help highschool foundations? I need suggestions on how I should get this club started, and organizations that may help me. Please email me if you have any information that may be helpful. Thank you very much.
Jordan

I fail to see why it is important to designate or collect info on "supposed" racial categories. What does my skin tone, type of hair, or epicanthic folds have to do with my intellect? My morals? My potential? My identity?

Someone tell me why I grew up in Hawai'i, identify myself as Hawai'ian, but will NEVER be Hawai'ian because of my skin tone and my parents? Why am I not Black because one of my great grandparents was Black? Where is the country of Black? Or White? Why is White not the same as Caucasian?

I think the whole subject of race is a lotta hooey!

I do love to promote interracial dating and marriages in Texas, I am a 32 year old white male thats an interracialist minded liberal and I love being an interracialist liberal so much in peace forever. I will always promote interracial dating in love and peace forever. I am single and I am looking for a very beautiful African-American or Mexican-American lady to date me, so that we can hopefully promote interracial dating together in peace, love, and happiness in a possible marriage for ourselves?

Pro-Interracialist and Peacefully yours forever, Peyton II

I just wanna say that no one has the right to try to make predictions for how any interracial relationships turn out.I'm proud to say that I'm mixed with Black,White,Irish,Scottish,German,English,and Cherokee.I have red/dark brown hair,light skin,and beautiful brown eyes.I'm kind of in a relationship with a White guy, and he makes me happy.It's not about race,when it comes to who I want to date.I have never had a Black boyfriend,even though I would love to.There are to many haters out there to have to worry about what they say.Give interracial relationships a go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The book "Love in Black and White" by Gail and
Mark Mathabane is very popular among
interracial couples and their families. Read the
opening chapters for free and explore the Mathabane's
website.

My husband and I are both caucasion and we have adopted identical twin black sons. We have had them since they were 3 days old and they are now almost two. We also have a natural son who is 4. We love them all dearly and equally. I love my children so much and as long as they find someone who treats them well and with respect who cares what color they are?? I have never been in a relationship with a black man but I can understand the feelings of an interracial relationship. People assume because I have black children that I have a black husband and I have been on the receiving end of some nasty comments but when people see my husband and I together with our children they are just set back. It's hilarious to see the confusion on their faces.
I play off the rudeness and comments. If someone is staring and it's very obvious, I just wave and say yes they're black and yes they're mine. This normally embarasses them and they are caught in the awkward situation and not I.
The worst comment I have ever faced and am asked every day is are they yours or are you babysitting? I would never assume that just because parent and child are not of the same race that they are not related! As culturally diversed that our county is, that assumption can not be made. So if you're reading this, NEVER ASK THAT QUESTION! IT IS RUDE!!!!! Of course they are mine!!!!

I am researching sites for my daughter. She is currently in a relationship with a very nice young man, but dealing with issues relating to a possible future with this boyfriend. The situation is this: she is a tall caucasian woman, and he is a small philipino man. They are dealing with both the issues of being of different race, but also being a "different" looking couple because of their size differences. I am curious as to whether or not there is a forum where they could get in touch with other couples who have worked through their family situations with families who are not totally accepting of their interracial relationship. She would not be totally happy with me to find that I had made this inquiry, but there has to be a forum where they can talk to couples who have gone through this situation and who made it work (or didn't make it work). If you have a place where they could speak to couples in interracial relationships and/or marriages, please contact me.

Hi! I am a 21 year old African-American female who is engaged to a 21 year old Caucasian male. We have two beautiful children. We plan on getting married May 2004. We actually met on the internet. In our area there are a lot of klan members but we haven't really had too many problems. We get people starring at us and sometimes even saying rude comments but it doesn't bother us. We are in love and that is all that matters. I long for the day when people can just accept peoples differences. I love this site and it was a wonderful idea.

I am in a rather difficult situation right now. I am a 17-year old Black American male who so happens to be talking to a 17-year old Caucasian Female. We both absolutly adore one another. I have never been with a person that just brings me so much happiness. We are both very strong Christians, and I would even dare to say that we love each other. We have only been talking for a short time however, we have faced alot of challenges. The biggest challenge we have yet to overcome, and don't know how we are going to overcome it. Her parents are extremly opposed to the fact that she and I want to be together. When she talked to her parents about this issue, they told her that they didn't think it would be a good idea, and besides it would send her grandfather to his grave. It is so sad that I can't be with the one human being I adore the most because of our ethnic differences. What her parents don't understand is that the whole black/white issue is not within our generation. We don't view it as the older adults do, we honestly could care less about peoples ethnic backgrounds. As I sit here and stare at her picture, the thought of us not being able to be together hurts me even more. Lauren means the world to me, and my heart is crushed. When I look in her eyes on this picture, all I can see is a beautiful young lady who loves me and most importantly, she loves Christ. I want to honor her parents wishes, and not date their daughter, in respect for them, and besides, I would not want to send somebody to their grave. You know the sad thing is people will say that they are not racist when they make decisions like this however, I strongly disagree. How can you not have prejudice in your heart if you have views like this? I love Lauren very much, and there is no doubt in my mind that I want to be with Lauren however, her parents won't let that happen. I don't know what to do. If any one is interested in contacting me or talking to me about this, please feel free to do so.

I am an African American living in Philadelphia. My fiance is a Serb living in Yugoslavia. We met on the internet in Jan 2002. In March 2002, he tried to get a visa to Canada (where I was living) but was rejected. So, I went to Yugoslavia to see him in April. Because of my fear of being followed to Yugoslavia by some angry people who were harrassing me when they over heard my conversation of how I was in love with a Serb in Yugoslavia, my fiance arranged police to meet me at the Belgrade airport and bring me safely to him. When we met in person, we fell in love immediately! His family accepted me like one of their own! After I spent 2 weeks with him and his family, we got engaged. On 27 Sept, I am going back to Yugoslavia and i will marry him on 4 October! We plan to live here in the USA, so we will have to maneuver through the immigration riff raff. That is our story - Our interracial and international love and marriage.
I would love to hear from you soon. You can write to me at this addy.

Listing Desi Arnaz and Lucille Ball as an interracial couple is incorrect. Desi Arnaz is Cuban, not black. Remember, there are Black Cubans, White Cubans, Chinese Cubans and so on. Please don't confuse ethnicity or nationality with race. Salsa queen Celia Cruz is black Cuban and actor Andy Garcia is caucasian, a Cuban of European decent, if they married they would be an interracial couple albeit both Cuban. I know you mean well, just need to do a little homework.

Hello IIA,

Iam a black women who is raising my bi racial son alone.
Every thing was cool when he was younger.I never brought up anything about color.

But now that he is older and trying to fit in as a teenager with his peers,its has become apparent to him that neither group white or black is not giving him the welcome mat. My son is part Russian and Iam an African American. He tells me that the black kids are even more off standish than the white.

I am looking for some literature to give him to read also
if there was a place he could go to talk to people who have gone through this experience. It is totally new to me and to my son it has become a hard ship

thank u for listening and good luck in your in goals
aisha

Does anyone know of any literature or movies (PAL format) in Russian that has the "interracial theme"? I know it is not normally a part of this culture, but there has to be something. Thanks. stepwillis@yahoo.com

I live in South Africa but grew up in Ireland; my family emigrated here in 1976. I am engaged to a black woman - actually in terms of old classifications used here, in the bad old days of Apartheid, she is coloured - of mixed race - but dark. We have been dating for 2 years and intend getting married early next year and having children.

Given SA's recent history we have a long way to go before you don't get stared at in the street and shopping malls.

More and more, we are pleasantly surprised by positive comments from people and find that negativity usually comes from black people who see my partner (Libbey) as a sell-out... perhaps that's the wrong word but the brothers and sisters tend to be the ones who elbow each other as we approach and shake their heads.

As far as we are concerned, we are in love and more so than we have ever been in our lives. We feel honoured to have met each other and share our life and love with appreciation and humility. We are not particularly
"policital" in our lives but certainly aware of the history in our country (I am a SA citizen now). I guess what I'm trying to say is that our relationship has always been about us and our feelings for each other and is not some sort of statement.

In fact, given SA's history: we fell in love in spite of the fact that we were from different backgrounds and cultures. Our families and friends are very supportive.

I am a 30 year old who has just come to realize that the lonelienss and rejection I felt as a child in an all white, religious community was most sensibly because my father had dark skin. I look white but with my last name and my father's appearence I was never accepted by our community.
Now that I know the reasons why it's helped resolve some of my childhood issues. Still, the lack of acceptance in a white community or minority groups, to this day is disappointing.
I've sought out multiracial groups because I feel we are the smallest almost ignored minority group. And to all my brothers and sisters out there, we are the new people, we are strong and have an understanding of humanity that runs deeper than any culture could comprehend. Because we see through our human eyes, not white, black, etc.
We should count ourselves lucky that we were born to understand. Many others will search all thier lives and may never reach that understanding that we are all the same family of the human race. Our diversity and ability to adapt is our greatest strength.

May God Bless us all in our relationship's,

I need a little advice. I work for a company that may place me in the position of relocating. Most of my choices will be in the mid-west or central states. Michigan will be very likely option.
My wife and I (she is white) are researching what states are known to be accepting of interracial couples. I don't have the need to be "loved" by every person I meet, or to be the most popular family in my neighborhood. On the other hand, I have no desire to have to "watch my back" every time I leave my home, or return to a vandalized house. All comments will be welcome.

I am a 25 year old Jewish guy whose partner is a 26 year old African American guy. We fell in love (deeply) over a year ago and already live together. I've read over some of the posted comments and didn't really find anyone who is involved in a gay or lesbian interracial relationship.
I must say that I find my relationship not only intensely loving, but extremely interesting. My partner and I knew little about each other's culture. We now explore each other's culture and people. He's exposed me to so much about African American culture. I feel blessed to have met him and feel incredibly luckily to have fallen in love with him.
I was wondering if there are any interracial fellowships or groups (not support groups, though) in the Philadelphia area......

Does anyone know of a history of interracial relationships - ie from classical times to the present.

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i'm a junior in high school and i have a research paper to do and if anyone could help me out by sending me some information on your expieriences. i would really appreciate it. thank you for your time.

I'm a 30 year old black woman married to a 31 year old white man. My husband and I met in high school in 1988 when I was about to turn 16. We've been together 14 years and married for 11. We celebrated our 10th anniversary last year by renewing our wedding vows and going to the Bahamas. Due to the fact that we were so young when we got married we didn't really have a honeymoon. When we first starting dating I never thought that this would be the man I'd marry but now I know that this is the man that I want to grow old with and share everything in my life for the rest of my life with. We both have the utmost love and respect for each other. We just happen to be a different color. Sure, we have our problems as do all couples but those problems have never had any issue involving our different races and backgrounds. We have 3 children ages 12, 8, & 7. Our children are very happy and healthy. They have the best of both worlds. A lot of people seem to think that biracial children have problems because they're biracial but I'm glad to say that mine have had very few if any. We as parents stress that both backgrounds are of equal importance. My husband's family has accepted me as one of their own from the very beginning as has mine of him. They love us for who we are and don't see color.
For years we have been searching for a church to expand our faith. As many mixed couples know it is difficult to find somewhere that you can feel comfortable with no staring and whispering. In March of this year-2002 we found such a church. A friend and co-worker of my husband who is black, married to a white woman, and has 2 children invited us to their church. They assured us that we would indeed fit in. When we walked through the doors we couldn't believe our eyes. I would say that 50% of the congregation was black/white mixed couples and the other 50% was comprised of black, white, chinese, african, malaysian, and hispanic. Everyone makes you feel extremely comfortable and welcome. The preacher, Harold Bare is an excellent speaker and greets as many as he can after his sermon is over. He has spoken several times about the joy he feels having such a mixed congregation. We love going to church and have even gotten my in-laws coming to church with us.
I know that at times it can be difficult in a mixed relationship. Sometimes parents and friends aren't accepting. If parents are the problem they will eventually come around and if friends are the problem those people were not true friends to begin with. I don't mean to go on and on but I thank God every day for my special family and I know that we're lucky and are blessed. I'll close by saying we're all the same when we close our eyes.

Starting with the 2000 census count, I have asked the bureau to change it's classification of "white"(concerning race) to "European American" to no avail. Caucasions are the only race that the bureau classifies by skin colour rather than country of origin. The USCB refuses to respond to ANY of my requests to look into the situation, even when I use THEIR official forms to lodge complaints. If anyone has suggestions/comments please feel free to email me.

My name is Robert Tevino, I am a 17 yr old hispanic who has been dating the most true, honest, caring and beautiful girl that I have ever dated or even been friends with. I wasn't looking for love at the time because I was getting over heart break at the time already. But love just happend to be there to help me get over heartbreak. Well she just happend to be black but I thought nothing of it. Love is color blind and so was I when I stumbled upon her. She is the most amazing and wonderful girl that I will ever know and love. She gave me a chance and at the beginning I thought nothing of it because my best friend is black and ithought nothing would be different........Oh! no no no. People would let me know what they thought of it,..and they made it clear that they did not like it at all. Well, i thought this wasnt worth me bieng hated over so one day I went to break it off with her and leave it unknown why. When I looked up to her, I saw something that I have never seen before on her face or any other persons face before just the look she gave me told me she loved me...and she did. I couldnt help but to forget about what I came to do. And I told her that I loved her back. Ive never felt like that before and I can only thank what I saw that day or else I wouldnt ever know what I would be missing out on. Till this day she doesnt know what I went to do that day after school but I thank God that it never happend love will find a way without warning and without an ounce of color. Till this day we are still together...Its been two years and three months and I love her even more than I did yesterday. This is for my girl Tomorrow I will always be there, I promise. Love always, Robert Trevino Jr. 1 year three months and still going strong. Robert & Tomorrow.

I was so happy to find this page, as there is not a lot of info out there for people in interracial relationships that I'm aware of. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, he's Puerto Rican and I am white. We have our share of problems but we are very much in love.
The biggest obstacle we face is cultural differences. He believes that whatever is tradition in PR is automatically right and that the "American" way is wrong. He has a very hard time understanding my need for independence and trust. Does anyone have any advice for me on how to help him understand?
I am trying to take into consideration that he has been brought up this way and it is a big change.
Thanks:) Annie

I find this site very interesting and would like to know if anyone out there is interested in the launch of The Mulatto Book. My partner and I are currenly in the middle of putting together a pictorial documentation of the beautiful "facial-landscape" of mulatto people in a celebration of the ongoing search for their identity.

To complete this unique publication, we are seeking high quality and clearly focused photographs of mulatto people. If you believe you can help us in any way to achieve our goal for the publication, we would be very grateful.

Please feel free to email either of us back at the above email addresses if you have questions, or for more details if you believe there is a good fit there.

Thanks!

Megan Van Amburgh
and Cope Thomas

Themulattobook@aol.com

Colorblind

A colorblind society
is not the kind that's right for me
If Black & White were all to see
Then at odds we might as well be

For Black is opposite of White
And Left is opposite of Right
A game of Chess we play and fight
no other colors allowed in sight

What do I tell my children who fright
At this horrifying spectacle at night
The nightmare of warfare sends color to flight
To hide in the shadows of political plight

Oh colorblind society
Cursed be my ancestry
War and hatred is your ministry
All for Colorblind policy

You Chessboard militants
dictate decrees and ordinance
Black, or White take your stance
This game of chess must commence

Either your Black, or either your White
No other shade, or hue in sight
Is there a law against this spite?
Perhaps this law I shall have to write

We are free for procreation
Free to partake in miscegenation
Free to love and create a nation
Free from fear of retaliation

Oh colorblind society
Open your eyes so you can see
The colors of life gave birth to thee
Wake up and live a life that's free

Cast off the chains of Black & White
raise up and stand to your fullest height
open your wings and take colorful flight
for this is your heritage and birthright

fore the colorblind militants have no might

Written by Patrick McCartney
02/03/03

i need help getting my husband his raise. There have been white peoples come in after him and got raise and they tell my husband that it is on a freez.

Hello,I am a 29 year old african lady,married to a German.I have been fighting for my right since I met my husband.He thought that by marrying a black woman,he could have total dominion,something he had never enjoyed with a caucasian woman.I have to some extend earned the respect i deserved.I have questions:Why are black women all over the world,treated with such disrespect?Why are they seen as dumb,foolish or objects for sexual satifaction?Why do we black women have to work much harder than women of other ethnic origins to prove ourselves worthy?Why should most caucasian men treat us as third class goods?Why should we pay the price for something that is not our fault?
The only difference between black women and women of other ethnic origin is that we have a higher concentration of Melanin."MELANIN"....Ironic isn't it?.Thank you for this forum it really helps a lot!

I'm a yr 12 student from Sydney, Australia and completing this big project for my HSC-Higher School Certificate- course 'Society and Culture'.The topic of ,my Personal Interest Project is "The Inter-racial Wedding of a Chinese/Australian couple". It is mainly a study of the values and beliefs of the Chinese culture and the Australian culture and how they each come together to affect the planning and process of the wedding ceremony. So I am wondering, are there any mixed Chinese/Australian couples here who are willing to share their wedding experiences and ideas? I would be very grateful for your help, as this sort of information can be used as part of my research. Note that I will respect the confidentiality adn anonymity of respondents by not disclosing their names or asking overly personal questions.
Thanks!

Just to say i love your ideas .....well done =)

i absolutely love this site. are there other sites like this one?? a few years ago i was in a 2 year serious relationship with a black guy from a town about 1 hour outside my own. my parents took it rather well, but my grandparents didn't however. he came to church with me and everything, and my grandparents just ignored both of us, and later expressed their views of such anger and hatred. the relationship ended, but he and i are still close friends. i am now 20 years old and dating at 21 year old black guy from haiti, africa. we get along SO well. i haven't told my parents yet, they think we're only friends. my grandparents are going to be so disappointed, and i hate that, but this guy is relly something special, and a firm believer in jesus christ which is a plus plus for me, since i am a christian as well. i plan to tell my parents soon, and my grandparents maybe. i'm just so close to my family, and sometimes my parents hate the anger between my grandparents and me and they expect me to choose i think, between the 2. he plays basketball for a college in my hometown, and i go to college an hour away. we see each other several times a week. this fall i will be 4 or 5 hours from him when i transfer schools, so not only will i have to deal with the disapproving family but also with the distance between us. with god i believe this relationship is possible, and i love pierry with all my heart. i'm open to any comments, suggestions, or questions. i like to give advice as well. feel free to e-mail me. thanx.

Since several centuries, there is no race (except for Jews) that has been persecuted so much like the black race especially black women. What is black, white, Asian, Hispanic or Native American anyway? Aren�ft we all divine creations of God? Don�ft we all have the same vital organs necessary for life to go on?

Most men from other ethnic origin, date black women just for sex, Some of them out of frustration of not finding a Caucasian woman or women of other race to put up with their bad manners, turn to black women as the last resort. Why should black women be treated like third grade goods?

The society also plays an important role in this issue. A black woman has to work much harder than women of other ethnic origin, just to prove herself worthy Why? In some parts of Europe, Africa as well as the United states of America, A white woman with a degree in medical sciences would get a job faster than a black woman with a ph.D in medical sciences. A black woman in a leather mini skirt, high heels and a neck holder top is called a hooker but women of other race dressed the same way are called sexy, or gorgeous. Ironic isn�ft it?

Most men from other ethnic origins, especially Caucasian men, date black women online but have white girlfriends at home. Why? �ecause they are afraid of loosing their place in society, loosing their friends or loosing their families. Friends find it ok if you are just dating a black woman but when it gets serious, to the point of engagement or Marriage, you are branded as third grade or best known as n****r lover. Some men loose family, fortune, friends, and even job position for loving out of their own race.

There is a sad situation going on in Africa right now, especially some parts of west �gAfrica like Nigeria, Where Caucasian men treat the African women like animals.When a Caucasian man(EXPERT) arrives Nigeria, he is thought the four f�fs ,and it goes like this:�g find them, feed them, f**k them, forget about them�h.You will have to excuse my language there,I just had to write it the way it is.One would think that they are referring to animals but they are referring to young beautiful African women, who are just looking for a means of survival, they are women who haven�ft been given opportunities in life yet condemned by society. In Nigeria, You find Caucasian men of 67 with African girls of 15-16 years old.They have sexual relationship with them and dump them like refuge.My question is;why is it child abuse in Europe or US for a man of 67 to sleep with a Caucasian girl of 15 or 16 years old and is ok if he sleeps with a black girl of 15 or 16 years old? What is the difference between the two?The word N****r as we all know, has been used frequently to insult black people. Caucasian men trying to get rid of black women they don�ft want to date anymore use this word as the last note to say bye. I want to point out that those who use it, and those who feel insulted when called a n****r are both ignorant. The word �gN****r�h correctly spelt is �gNiger�h. There was a man called Simeon the Niger in Acts 13 and in the amplified bible it says that he was called that because he was black. It was never an insult. My point is why should people feel that calling someone a Niger is supposed to be offensive, without really checking it out and finding out how it came to be?

Some Christians, when asked the question �gare you prejudiced?�h their answer is always �gno�h but when asked whether or not they would to date outside their race, the reply is ok if it is women of other races, but no or sometimes signs of reluctance if it is a black woman. Doesn�ft that contradict the teachings of Christ? you tell me.

I think that if we should write a book about the persecution of black women, it would go on and on without end. Black women should be given a chance too in our societies, just like women of other races. What is the difference between a black woman and women of other ethnic origins? A simple thing; A higher concentration of melanin. How many women in the world today dream of getting a tan? Thousands. Why should we want a tan, which is achieved due to increase in melanin pigment on the skin and hate people who have it naturally? Should black women suffer for something that is not their fault? By discriminating black women and treating them as dirt to society, is like telling God he made a mistake creating them. Isn�ft it written in the bible that we should love one another?

If such a thing as tiny as difference in melanin concentration can cause so much pain, heartache and mental torture then I wonder what kind of world we live in. I am not prejudiced and I don�ft have any issues against any particular race, I am just giving an opinion with the hope that someone out there shares the same views.

Dear Sir/Madam

I am a mixed raced child living in London England reading a degree in Sociology and Drama. As part of my final drama assesment i am constructing a performance about the experiences of mixed raced children in some of the struggles they may face. Currently i am carrying out interviews with subjects about their experieces hoping to create a performance from the transcripts.


I would be most grateful if mixed race raced teenagers or
even adults could send me some experiences.

I can assure you that all experience recieved will NOT be exploited for theatrical purposes. The purpose of the performance is to create social awarness.

Below are some of the things i am asking in my interviews. You could answer according to the question or however you would like.

>What is your 'ethnic background' (parents origins)
>How would you define yourself in terms of you 'race',sexuality, class
> Do you feel that that you are viewed by others different to what you see yourself as?
> Discuss terms like, 'Mixed race', 'Mixed Parentage' or 'Half-Caste?
> What factors influenced the choice in such labels, if any?
> Do you feel positive or negative about your mixed parentage?
> Past boyfriends/girlfriends and marriage partners.
> Would you see yourself more affiliated with black culture or white culture?
> Religious allegiances
> What significant events have had an impact upon them for example: Experiencing racism, at school, at work, at home
> Have they ever been racist themselves
> Ways that they dealt with racism?
>If possible try to incorporate some of the parents account
>How do they feel the media have represented by the media via films, TV etc.

Thank you for you time

Gurmit Nothay

Hello, my name is Arial, and I'm only 15 years old. I have always been attracted to guys of different races besides black ever since i could rememeber. Most, almost all of my friends are white. I'm constently told that i'm fake because i don't hang out with anyone of my own race. One year I tried to and I found myself feeling misplaced. I didn't feel like I fit in even though my skin color did. I'm very young and it's been really hard for me coping with everything. At this age, not many are willing to cross over like experience with different races. many beleive that I don't like my own race but that isn't the case. It's just what I prefer. I met this guy named Jon, he and I hadn't seen each other yet and we started to get to know each other really well. About 3 months into the relationship I started to realize that he probably thought I was white. So I was talking to him one day and I just had to tell him, I couldn't hold it in any longer....well he accepted it pretty well and we stayed together for 6 months. We broke up for different reasons. I was really happy to know that he loved me so much that he didn't care what my skin color was or anything like that. My family is pretty supportive of me although sometime they make comments about my prefernces that often makes me uncomfortable. I can't help the way i feel and i won't change the way i feel for anyone. I came searching for a site like this b/c somthing happened to me today. My friend's boyfriend doesn't like me and he was telling her how much he hated me and stuff. He also called me nigger and other names that really hurt me when my friend told me. I almost wanted to cry. This was the first time i was comfronted by something like so. I don't know how to handle it. I know that not everyone is going to be accepting of my liefstyle but I just have to move on and thats exactly what i'm going to do!! wish me luck!!

My wife and I are an Interracil couple with 2 beautiful kids currently living in Florida. We are looking to relocate to a nice town - great to raise a family and where people are nice/friendly as well as somewhat tolerant about Interracial couple.
Should anyone have any suggestions with details, we'd appreciate if you could send all your inputs to our email as listed : dashelter@yahoo.com .

Thanks and KEEP AMERICA BEAUTIFUL : One LOVE!

My wife and I are an Interracial couple with 2 beautiful kids looking to relocate.
Can anyone advise us of a nice place/city to raise kids with a somewhat tolerant atmosphere towards Interracial couples?
We're trying to stay away from the hustle/bustle of big cities--yet to friendly places-receptive to our situation.

Thanks for all your feedback...Looking forward to your replies and discussions via email..

Coming from an interracial background I can relate to all the controversy in this country over race. However, I feel sickened when people (of any race) feel that an individual is the personal property of that particular race. Whether dating or friendship, the common philosophy of �you should stick to your own kind� is something that is commonly heard and felt in our society. The fact that we are all �human kind� should suffice, however, as we all well know that is not the case.

I especially dislike it when as an individual you like something or someone of a �supposed different culture� for the sake of liking it and people perceive you as a �betrayer of your race�, or as a �want to be� because you stepped outside the box. Sometimes you just like something or someone because you just do, you don�t hate who you are, you don�t want to be another race, nor do you hate your race, you just simply like what you like, period. There are some situation where that is not the case, however, lumping everyone in the category of �betrayer� or �want to be� because it more comfortably explains their behavior is painfully oppressive.

I fear that some people may be so closed off from thinking as individuals and allowing others to do the same that the growth of the human race can possibly be stifled for a long period of time, but not stopped. We really need to get our act together. People are different within their culture and people in different outside their culture and hindering growth do to fear of change is not only illogical and ignorant, it is sad and not befitting of the �most intelligent� species on the planet.

Are there any forums workshops or discussions group in the new jersey or new york area?
Dan

Hi ,I'm located in the Tampa Bay area .My husband and I met when we were very young teenagers and have been together ever since. I have 2 young children (3yrs&6mths)and would like to start a play group for multi racial children. I feel that it is important for children to have friends that look like them as well as those who don't. If you have a multiracial child and live near Tampa give me an email. jonathanmostyn@aol.com

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I am currently writing a book on interracial children and how they are just right the way they are. Any feedback from any families would be great! Thanks.

actually i just came upon your web site through your movie review section. i was
searching for a movie made in Australia, probably about ten years ago. The film is
about an Aborignie woman who was raised by a White woman. The woman takes care of her
step-mother but there is an underlying level of hostility. The film examines the
complex relationship between bi-racial Aboriginies and the White families they were
placed with,after being removed from their birth families. The title was something
like "Night Mother" i believe.

I am a pakistani man of 35, married to a german caucasian woman. I met her for the first time in a park from where our friendship blossomed. I was new to that country and she was kind enough to be a friend. She was not the Europeon I thought like. She was simple, not too frank, not the fun and party loving girl, but there was something in this girl that was clearly a heavenly magic......It was her difference in looks and language and country maybe that made me want to talk to her, be with her (ofcourse she was and is a very preety blond).
We started liking each other beyong all differnces of race country culture language borders or continents or even religion. Her family being strict christians didnt like me (her mom almost hated me) and my mom was not very supportive either. But our dads agreed after they saw our commitment in love, and the respect for them that we never lacked in...and we married.
Our parents have accepted our marriage to a length, and its been 11 yrs of our marriage and we still feel like it was yesterday. Our children and not only proud but are very intelligent, handsome and good mannered. My love, my wife i just beside me while I am writing, and we would like to say that " There is nothing more beautiful then interracial and intercultural marriages.........if there is love, then it is a clear proof that love is stronger then anything put infront of it! LOVE IS AFTERALL THE RAY OF GOD......AND GOD CREATED US ALL, AND WHEN HE SEES NO DIFFERENCE, NEITHER SHOULD WE."
Interracial marriage is not breaking rules, but its a repair of the rule that we are following.
Interracial marriages out of deep love is nothing but an eternal feeling of warmth, satisfaction, spirituality, and sence of giving a glow and meaning to the good and right rules the the total human civilisation.

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I am writing to inquire as to whether or not your association is still active/exists. Thank you.

Here's a story. My father, a black man, married my mother, an asian woman but yet he is one of the most racist people on earth. Both my sibling and I date white people and this infuriates him to the point that he even held a loaded gun to my head and threatened to kill me once because I was dating someone white. He is always yelling at my mother for my sibling and I being the way we are, "too white, not black enough". Both of us are college students with a high g.p.a., I own my own home and we are sucessful, community oriented people. This is being too white, I guess. Has anyone else dealt with this...a parent who married interraically but is a complete racist? Sounds stupid, hipocritical and plain selfish, but that is the way he is. Please send comments. Thanks

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I am digusted that there is an organization that promotes interatial dating. Not only does it not make since it is unnatural. I am a black,attractive, smart woman, aged 32 who is married to a beautiful black man. He agrees that getting involved with someone of a different race is an absurd idea. I find that since I have moved back home to Northern California from the east cost it is rare that I see black couples together. The trend is now very strong here.infact it is often that I get digusted looks from black men. I honestly beleive the are not aware they are giving me these looks. I think that with every thing wrong with this country it sadens me that so many people are choosing to go to another race. This is probably why the divorse rates are so high. How can you choose to be with someone who dosen't understand discrimination and your everyday obsticles that all blacks have to overcome on a daily basis? I beleive a choice to date interatially is a clear sign of self hate, a lack of education of ones culture and the whole thing sickens me. Once our black men start educating themselves about there own culture they will wake up and realize that there choice to date white women is wrong. My black men, "You were once recently strung from your necks and hung to die for your lusty thought and actions of white woman". When will you learn? Prime example. Kobe Bryant. He did not rape this white tramp but he did have sex with her for this action alone he should pay. His white wife stands by him insupport and he buys her a ring. A self assured, aware black woman would have already kicked him to the curb. The one thing I have figured out is that black women demand that there men work hard to be better men. They don't allow themselves to be mistreated like the white woman. Black woman are strong and confidant unlike white woman. Black men use white woman for sexual pleasure, not beacause they are more beautiful because no beaty can compare to a black woman and the black man knows this but because they simply can. Black man/ people wake up!!!

I am digusted that there is an organization that promotes interatial dating. Not only does it not make since it is unnatural. I am a black,attractive, smart woman, aged 32 who is married to a beautiful black man. He agrees that getting involved with someone of a different race is an absurd idea. I find that since I have moved back home to Northern California from the east cost it is rare that I see black couples together. The trend is now very strong here.infact it is often that I get digusted looks from black men. I honestly beleive the are not aware they are giving me these looks. I think that with every thing wrong with this country it sadens me that so many people are choosing to go to another race. This is probably why the divorse rates are so high. How can you choose to be with someone who dosen't understand discrimination and your everyday obsticles that all blacks have to overcome on a daily basis? I beleive a choice to date interatially is a clear sign of self hate, a lack of education of ones culture and the whole thing sickens me. Once our black men start educating themselves about there own culture they will wake up and realize that there choice to date white women is wrong. My black men, "You were once recently strung from your necks and hung to die for your lusty thought and actions of white woman". When will you learn? Prime example. Kobe Bryant. He did not rape this white tramp but he did have sex with her for this action alone he should pay. His white wife stands by him insupport and he buys her a ring. A self assured, aware black woman would have already kicked him to the curb. The one thing I have figured out is that black women demand that there men work hard to be better men. They don't allow themselves to be mistreated like the white woman. Black woman are strong and confidant unlike white woman. Black men use white woman for sexual pleasure, not beacause they are more beautiful because no beaty can compare to a black woman and the black man knows this but because they simply can. Black man/ people wake up!!!

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I think that this is a good dissicussion forum. I found this website by looking up info for a reasearch paper, but i find the comments very interesting. I mself is multiracial but a lot of people in my family claim indain which is nothing wrong but i believe that if you have more than one race you should be proud to claim it!! I was always in an inter-racial relationship i dated a blcak male for almost two years and my parents disapproved but now i'm dating a white male and there is no problem but for me i see it as racial confusion becuase my parents grew up in a very racial country where blacks "didn't like" indians such as in amereica whites "didnt like blacks" well thanks for all the comments they were very helpful and good information--samantha G'boro,NC

well, this is for Cassandra Hendricks.. i think that it is obsurd that you think that interracial relationshipd are a "Trend" If you do research you would find out the interracial relationships date back to salvery not only slave masters but there was black slaves with white women becasue they want to be with them. I am involved with a black male and i have for almost three years now and we have a wonderful relationship. It is not like he thinks that african american women are not beatiful and intelligent it just that he choosed me overall people. People are now being open with there interracial relationsips becasue everyone are tried of stepping on everyones toes.And i am proud to be multiracial and be in a loving inter-racial relationship

"I think that with every thing wrong with this country it sadens me that so many people are choosing to go to another race"

Why would it sadden you that people are choosing other races JUST because as you said "every thing wrong with this country" don't you feel that it brings more unity and openmindedness as to other cultures and it can help with the so called "wrong"?

"How can you choose to be with someone who dosen't understand discrimination and your everyday obsticles that all blacks have to overcome on a daily basis"

How can you chose to be so closed minded about love? So you chose your husband JUST because he was a "beautiful black man"? If there was a white hispanic asian or other nationality who could love you better and offer you more love and stablilty you would have turned that down just because he was not a "beautiful black man"? THAT is why I believe the divorce rate is so high.... you don't open you heart to REAL love... just what you want to see as real love.


"Once our black men start educating themselves about there own culture they will wake up and realize that there choice to date white women is wrong"

I'm sorry to tell you that I know VERY man black men who are well educated in your own culture and choose to be open to dating other nationalities... see that is what I call a MATURE MINDED PERSON... you are what we call a CLOSED MINDED PERSON who will never grow any further emotionally


" Prime example. Kobe Bryant. He did not rape this white tramp but he did have sex with her for this action alone he should pay."

WHEN did u become the creator of all living things? Because last I checked you are not GOD and only GOD can judge any soul.... YOU were not tehre with the actions took place so you can't say what REALLY happened.. Kobe will be judged but not by you.

" Black men use white woman for sexual pleasure, not beacause they are more beautiful because no beaty can compare to a black woman and the black man knows this but because they simply can"

ALL beauty is in the eye of the beholder and who are you AGAIN to judge what anyone feels is beauty? My man has chosen ME above all others and believe me he has had MANY opportunities to be with other females EVEN black females, but his eye beholds the beauty in ME and that is his choice. It is not your place to EVER tell ANY ONE who they should be with or see as beautiful.

Your hates stems from a deeper topic and until you work out THAT issue you need to keep your negitive thoughts to yourself because you may think it is a TREND to date interracially but as stated before it has been around for MANY MANY years and it will continue to happen. In my eyes you are the BLACK modern verison on the KKK sorry to say but I am sure many agree with me on that.

First off I would like to commend the International Interracial Association, for having a site where parents like myself can visit to get info and support.
I am a mother of two beautiful interracial children. My children are intelligent, well rounded individuals who love who and what they are. They are very comfortable in the skin they are in. I will admit there have been struggles along the way but I have taught my children that ignorance is not worth their efforts. My children most definately stand up for themselves and both of their races but do not lower themselves to stupidity. We live in small town New England, USA and we are a very strong family. If anyone out there needs advice. I have 16 years of being a mother of children of mixed race. Love each other everyone, we are all Gods children.

Greetings:
I've read the information on your website, and I found it to be very kind, and pro-humanitarian.
One of the foes to this beautiful vision you have here is Neo-Zionism...did you all know that foreign workers can not date, nor marry Jewish women in Israel if they work for _____ company. see link: www.rense.com/general46forbid.html
Did you know that Rabbi Saadya Gramam wrote a hate filled book stating that gentiles (Christian-Americans?) are completely EVIL, and Jews are a separate and SUPERIOR 'species'?....www.rense.com/general46/nti.html
Lastly, were you aware of this website..Please visit it, you will get a major education:
www.jewsagainstzionism.com

Respectfully,

Sundiata Tellem
(M)Chairman: Green Party of Dallas County

I am sorry to admit, but I feel uncomfortable seeing so many Black men in interracial relationships. I often wonder if they do it out of real love or "other" (forbidden fruit affect or climbing the white social ladder). There are too many wonderful but single Black women; the ratio is so unfairly unbalanced. What hurts the most, when black men call down Black women to justify their dating preference and they encourage their white girlfriends to do this as well. I am sure it won't be so bad if the interracial dating was balanced. I read and see so many stories about Black man & white female love. But when will Black women be respected and desired by men of other races we are admired from afar but not respected. The media is not helping either, there is such a stigma against Black women, who says different is in denial. "sigh" It�s so hard being a single Black women, then again it has always been.